I have to start looking for a new job but I’m terrified. I’m afraid I’m gonna fail. It’s like my brain cannot process failure. It will not process failure. Maybe that’s my biggest fear, being a failure. And my parents, my mom especially is giving me all this additional pressure to get a job. Instead of offering support. They’re trying to help me, but they’re not. They never understand the things I’m going through, they’re from a different era. Maybe that’s another area that led me to depression. They keep forcing these ultimatums on me and in their best attempts to try to push me to be better, they achieve the opposite effect. My mother wants constant info and input on my job progress, and It’s driving me mad. I’m 24 and I still don’t have any idea what my life is going to be like, I haven’t met the right girl and I’m running out of patience. I have all this darkness inside of me and for every step I take to get out of it, I take two steps back in. It’s driving me crazy! I appreciate all the people who’re trying to help me, but at the same time, they either try to judge me or compare me to someone else. That’s why I’m sharing my thoughts here once again. The only people that can’t judge right now are the strangers here.
I think it is natural for parents to be curious about job search progress, my dad used to ask me about my progress when I would tell him I applied to another interview when the first one didn’t work!
Yeah but curiousity doesn’t mean constantly prying and invading personal space. In the end, it should be your decision to tell them.
Yes! You’re right! Btw did you try building your profile on Linkedin, tried applying for jobs at startups in angel.co, if you like a startup and want to work with them, write an impressive email, offer to work for them free for a week because you want to get started so bad! Prove your value and get a job! That’s one way that seldom works! or find internships on Internshala!
Ok firstly, I’m not from India. Second, I’m already looking for jobs, but the fact that they want to know everything, like how many applications did I apply for, how many are there for the line of work I want to be in etc. That is my buisness and if I want to, I’ll share it. Also the problem is with my Mom mostly. My dad is actually on my side, but doesn’t really do anything to help me. She’s just pressuring me because she doesn’t trust me, she thinks I’m lazy. While I get it she doesn’t get that I’m just afraid. I’m working on it but her pushing and constantly invading my personal space isn’t helping me at all.
I’m still fighting depression and I’m in a deep dark place, and she doesn’t trust me. She has her own twisted idea of support that does more harm for me than good. The only option is to get as far away from her and isolate her. I love her dearly, but I cannot stand her at the same time.
Did you try talking to her explaining to her how it’s creating so much pressure on you? I openly tell my parents how I feel when they get on my nerves and they eventually understand and then step back! So perhaps talking it out with her might help?
Also if you don’t find a job, try freelancing for some time on fiverr?
I have been trying to talk, but she just interprets it as me being lazy. While in reality I’m just nervous because I might fail. She doesn’t try and understand me she just wants me to work and make it on my own, which is great, because that’s what I want too. She just has this stupid understanding that she has to push me, otherwise I wouldn’t do anything and I have an understanding that I have personal space, and it’s none of her buisness unless I make it so.
