I have been with my friend for almost a decade. We’ve been understand each other so much. And we have been together from high school till our university. Even in the university we are roomates. However the things is, she used to be supportive, shy girl that i know, but now she changed. She become a confidence, cheerful and friendly girl. I’m proud of the changes, but when she change, she started to not understand me. I started to develop social anxiety during pre university. I thought she would be the person who understand me a lot. Buttt i felt like being downgraded, judged and unappreciated as she changed. Everytime we had a casual conversation, we usually gonan point put our opinion, but he end of the conversation I would feel like I have the wrong thinking, she is the correct one. And after all the conversation, i felt judged by her. I dont what shpuld j do.
Kush @kush
Hey, I can relate to this. But gradually as I grew, I understood that people change. We might feel guilty about losing touch with our past childhood or school friends, but the truth is, we all grow over them. We eventually start to show that we are different human beings with different ideologies. And that’s not a bad thing. I watched a movie someday, it was an animated movie, I don’t remember the characters, nor do I remember the name, but one thing that I kept with me was this one dialog, “We should have best friends throughout our lives, in every phase of our lives. But that best friend, need not be the same person.”
So that means you are in the phase of life right now, where your friend has outgrown you to become a different person, and so, it’s not a bad thing or something to be guilty of, to get distanced from them.
Take care buddy
I see, totally understood. Yeah, we used to need each other so much. But now, she seem to be no need me anymore, while i still need her. I started to accept that and its not im trying to distance from her, but i think i should gradually be with other people in certain things. By that i can be independent and not relying too much on her. Thank you so much.
