I have been dealing with this dilemma of career change. i have been software engineer in a company from 5.5 years. i have joined there as a fresher. when i thought of changing at 2.5 years time when i got some sufficient experience hands on, my breakup happened and i was terribly down for a year to cope it up and then went to onsite just for the experience sake and to get away with the terrible breakup. came back and i was already 4.5 years experience. now with IT boom going on and peer pressure building up unknowingly inside me, i feel inferior a lot. especially with my ex. But leaving aside all thoughts, in the current company, i have been paid decently and people are very good. but technology we use is very old, but good thing is it is changing. To add to the dilemma, my sister marriage is settled and my marriage is also almost settled. so these responsibility takes an year to complete atleast and by then a year would have happened. I neither have focus or innate thrust to switch. but I am feeling chaotic with respect to this and every now and then I feel inferior and laid back when i compare to friends of mine. i know i should never compare with anybody and mind my own ball game. my confidence is low, may be its triggering. deep dilemma feel. should i complete the responsibility of the marriage and get settled for few mins and try to switch, if so will it be too late? or should i gather courage, work hard and switch amidst the marriage things? Feeling chaotic. I am sorry if my complete writings felt the same way i am feeling inside.
First you need to stop thinking that things are chaotic. Your sister is getting married, enjoy this moment. She will leave parents house and settle in life, things change once girls get married. Somehow they take care of in laws wayyy more than her own parents. So spend more time with her before she gets married, cherish these moments, take out whole family on small getaways or lunch in a nice place (but make sure you all are safe in covid). I am saying from my personal experience coz my father used to go for morning walks and got covid in April. He was in ICU ventilator for 20 days. By god’s grace he came back home safe. I’ve seen so many deaths in so many hospitals during the run around while battling for oxygen and drugs.
At the same time, take advantage of pandemic. Take up some bootcamp course on some latest technology to learn more, or else why don’t you sign up to some post grad course. I am sure your company will reimburse for it in case you are working for any sort of MNC (you may refer to HR). Don’t just give up. Your life is better than me and so many people out there, take more out of it. A friend raped me when I was asked him to come help when dad were in hospital bed. Now I am fighting, go to meet lawyer every now n then, I filed FIR, but almost a year is gone and they have not arrested him. I keel filing asking for status on report in court to expedite the process. I am fighting for my crime happened to me. The only good thing is my boyfriend is being my support. I don’t focus at work. My friends are also doing way better than I am doing but i keep myself positive. See your life is better than me. I am sure your life will be better than many who you are asking your questions to be answered. In case you want to earn more, prepare for CAT, go for reputed bschool, you will start earning in 30-40 lacs. Also you need to take out time for yourself to decide what you want to do. You want to switch or stay in same job or go for post grad while working in same organisation or quit and prepare of bschool and the lost goes on amd on. How will you work when there is no goal. And money is not everything. Don’t go after money, you may not want to make your life picture perfect. Instead make it happy.
thank you for your kind words. Yes, you are right. i need to figure out and also enjoy the moment. Hope you have great days ahead.
you have gone through a lot. May God bless you more strength and bless you more happiness going forward in life.
