I have bad anxiety about my partner cheating. We’ve been together for just over two years - we recently went on a nice trip to the Lake District and Edinburgh to celebrate.
I personally don’t believe my partner has or will ever cheat. We’ve had multiple discussions about cheating (in general) and he always seems passionate about staying with one person. We’ve both mentioned, on different occasions, about our future together and he even says he wants to propose before he is 22. I am 19f and he is 20m.
My past “relationship”, wasn’t actually exclusive, has left me with terrible anxiety that makes me debate what’s actually going on. I once looked through my partners messages but found nothing. I admitted what I did straight away as I felt so guilty but he said I am welcome to look anytime.
We have had our ups and downs, like all relationships, but he’s not given me the suspicion once.
I find myself looking through his social media followings and wondering who the girls are.
I wouldn’t say i’m an insecure person, I’m quite confident in myself. However, I get an overwhelming urge to cause arguments when i feel my anxiety coming on. I’m not worried about he’s going leave me for another girl, i’m worried that he will stay with me and hurt me, emotionally. I stand my ground in just about everything. I think my real issue is that I want someone to leave, rather than stay if they want to peruse other people.
I’m unsure if I make sense but I could do with some opinions right now. Thanks x
The problem is that you are still in the past and you think everyone is similar to eachother which is not truth and not everyone will hurt you so just don’t overthink about the past things much…
i do think about my past quite a bit. not the person but what i went through. it could contribute to my anxiety - i don’t want to feel like that again
Just stop thinking about your past and just live in present and enjoy the moments with your bf
