I have a passive aggressive towards my father. He and I dont share a good relationship and it isnt something new, but I told him about a rough childhood trauma I had and he didnt act on it and all I feel is pure anger and disgust. I regret telling him big time and whenever we have an argument I cant stop thinking of how he doesnt really care because I am not his priority. I dont know how else to feel about it. you may be thinking that I am irrational about it but you have got to trust me for now. I just wish I could keep that very thing aside when I am having a discussion about anything else. Its just this sad feeling when you know your own dont care enough, I mean, whom am I supposed to trust anyway
Even i have gone through it the only way is that some one to be silent at those times and i would like to tell you is that u start to take initiative and try to be silent when there is issue between u two
Cant do that. I physically cant. I am exhausted by his unfairness to be honest. I am not saying he doesnt mean well. All I am saying is that when he knows I am unwell, literally struggling to stay afloat, why does he have to push my temper.
Maverick @maverickash
What is ur age buddy
Not a child. Dont assume I am a teenager
Maverick @maverickash
That wat i am asking i know ur not a child but in some countries there is age limit to move out of the house hence i asked wats ur age
Avoidance isnt a solution in cases like this. We live in different countries and have arguments. Its not about the distance
Maverick @maverickash
Best is you both need to sit and talk the solution is to ask him politely why are mad at me give me a reason ask him like this slowly make him claim down he will understand let him explain him self give him time to explain
Been there. Done that. Told you, I am not a child
Maverick @maverickash
Ok lets see what other have to say for me it worked out so lets see whats happens
I had a similar situation with my mom in 2016. I opened n explained abt my trauma and all she cared about was her prestige. N everytime a similar topic comes, I’m always confused if she is thinking about that trauma I shared cz she didn’t even talk or know the effect it had on me. Around 2019 or so, I realised this “I WAS INNOCENT TO FALL INTO SUCH TRAUMA & I DIDN’T COMMIT NY MISTAKE” & DIDN’T HAVE THE MATURITY , SHOULDN’T HAVE URGED FOR MY MOM’S HELP . Sure it is an ugly past n my mom didn’t help me overcome but I moved on & now when I think of it…it doesn’t hurt rather alerts me not to fall in such situation.
I get your point. I self taught myself long enough. I just regret sharing it now thinking they’d be understanding. Huh… I was fooling myself I guess