I have a passive aggressive towards my father. He and I dont share a good relationship and it isnt something new, but I told him about a rough childhood trauma I had and he didnt act on it and all I feel is pure anger and disgust. I regret telling him big time and whenever we have an argument I cant stop thinking of how he doesnt really care because I am not his priority. I dont know how else to feel about it. you may be thinking that I am irrational about it but you have got to trust me for now. I just wish I could keep that very thing aside when I am having a discussion about anything else. Its just this sad feeling when you know your own dont care enough, I mean, whom am I supposed to trust anyway
Even i have gone through it the only way is that some one to be silent at those times and i would like to tell you is that u start to take initiative and try to be silent when there is issue between u two
Cant do that. I physically cant. I am exhausted by his unfairness to be honest. I am not saying he doesnt mean well. All I am saying is that when he knows I am unwell, literally struggling to stay afloat, why does he have to push my temper.
What is ur age buddy
Not a child. Dont assume I am a teenager
That wat i am asking i know ur not a child but in some countries there is age limit to move out of the house hence i asked wats ur age
Avoidance isnt a solution in cases like this. We live in different countries and have arguments. Its not about the distance
Best is you both need to sit and talk the solution is to ask him politely why are mad at me give me a reason ask him like this slowly make him claim down he will understand let him explain him self give him time to explain
Been there. Done that. Told you, I am not a child
Ok lets see what other have to say for me it worked out so lets see whats happens
I had a similar situation with my mom in 2016. I opened n explained abt my trauma and all she cared about was her prestige. N everytime a similar topic comes, I’m always confused if she is thinking about that trauma I shared cz she didn’t even talk or know the effect it had on me. Around 2019 or so, I realised this “I WAS INNOCENT TO FALL INTO SUCH TRAUMA & I DIDN’T COMMIT NY MISTAKE” & DIDN’T HAVE THE MATURITY , SHOULDN’T HAVE URGED FOR MY MOM’S HELP . Sure it is an ugly past n my mom didn’t help me overcome but I moved on & now when I think of it…it doesn’t hurt rather alerts me not to fall in such situation.
I get your point. I self taught myself long enough. I just regret sharing it now thinking they’d be understanding. Huh… I was fooling myself I guess