I have a crush on a guy and weโve been chatting for like 1 month. Tbh, i dunno much about him as we met on Bumbleโฆso my problem is recently i saw an OYO notification in one of his screenshots.
Instantly i was stunned and took a step back as we all know what OYO is all about (not trying to be judgemental, but try to understand my POV).
Can anyone tell me in which light i should take this matter?
In a positive light (to continue chatting) or in a negative light (to just try to withdraw my feelings from him before its too late)
And I use oyo for my business travel and infact for any hotel booking I find oyo reasonable budget wise
Thanks manโฆik oyo is in soo bad light but thankfully he went on a trip recently^^
Hahaha see what you can do is directly ask him if he wants casual stuff or want something serious just make the convo comfortable enough that he can let out what is going inside him and then you can choose whatever suits you
All the best hope he turns out to be your prince charming and not a fuck boy
Thanks for the suggestionโฆbut i dunno if i can ask that much private question way too soonโฆbcoz the scene is ik we have been talking since 1 monthโฆbut we both are hella introvertsโฆmtlb work is taking up out time, to we chat only a bit in morning,afternoon and nightโฆwhich sums upto 1-1.5 week of chat lol!
I know how to make environment lighter but i rlly dunno how to ask him that, given that its only a crush!๐
Hahaha then personally traits you telling arenโt of a fuck boy. I being a boy can say that
Thanks for the conformation hehehโฆone more question i wanna ask (if u can answer ofc, no offence hehe)
Like i summed up our overall scenario to you,so can you give me some hints/tips to know if he feels the same way abt me!๐
I am bad at this like really really bad
Coz i usuall ended up in a one sided love and her friend zoning me.
But see if I love a girl I would give her my time find time out my schedule to tak to her text her or call her remember her small small things (i donโt know how it comes out I remember even small details her cycle and all) i wanna see her would ask for snap and all. I would do all crazy stuff to make her smile when I know she is upset.
Omgโฆi am sorry to hear that and i DO know how it feels as i was also in one-sided love thing for over 7-8 yearsโฆits kinda bittersweet tbh but we gotta end things on a good note and let ourselves heal!โจ
But thanks for sharing your part of the story and reply!
I do appreciate that dude^^
How did you get off that guy i am not able to get over this girl it is been 3 years she did worst with me but all I am stuck with her thoughts ๐ curse her and also in pain too
I know how it feels like!
My one sided love continued for 7-8 years but i confessed to him at 5/6th yearโฆso he was def a guy who was in bad light because of his flings(red flag), but heart continued tge torture of being rejected, that at some point of time, i realised that heโs just time passing with me via calls/texts (we never met in person but we knew each other as we attended same class ans schl)โฆso for 2-3 years, he was rude/emotional/happy/sad time passed with meโฆand one day i got to know that I had a bad image in frnt of his frnds as he said i was โchepโโฆthat day and that sentence broke me to the coreโฆa even had a mild depression after thatโฆbut yes at that moment, i promised myself to get over himโฆand fast forward to nowโฆi got to know that i can never get over the first love things as wo always rhega in heart but yes i broke all the contact (out of sight, out of mind) and healing myself because its more of a process^^
Exactly I donโt wanna be with that girl who used to as an move on But that love that sensation of loving that person is gonna stay there it is gonna stay there forever.
Exactlyโฆpeople will say ki โget over it alreadyโ but our hearts know that that feelings arenโt brushed off that easily lol.
All we can do is focusing on ourselves and have a better crush haha
Cheers dude!๐ฅ
i always use Oyo when i travel with my cousins and family members but we can say for sure yahan pe kya scene hai
maybe he must be into hookups and all aur vahi sab cheeze krrha hoga ๐คท
All the replies were about trip with family and cousins, so yeah itโs right is he went to trip (idk with his family/friends), but i am confused ki kahin flings wala bnda na ho!
Thanks for the reply btw^^
he went to trip ???
and definately heโs using that for families
ik you are a bit worried ki aage jaake he asks you for all this toh kya hoga
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The thing is you like spending time with spend it donโt get too emotionally invested in start over the gap of an year or so you would know he is casually into you or really invested in you then you can take things ahead and about same thing he asks you going in oyo which might be your real concern strictly say no if you feel uncomfortable
maybe sheโs worried if all this really happens then she would waste all that investment which will be done before that raaz comes out
I hope thatโs the case and yes you are rightโฆi am a bit worried if we escalated and he pops this topic out!
yeah i get what you mean
Wohiโฆand i am kinda responsible person, to i have to be extra careful about investing my feelings into someoneโฆand thatโs how beautiful the word โcrushโ is for meโฆhehe
Lol exactly
Ask him if youโre unsure
Be straight forward
Couldnโt be worse than you questioning it right?
I want to!!! But the thing is that he donโt know that i am having feelings for him.
Plus heโs kinda introvert, to i dunno how to ask himโฆi dunno how heโs gonna react?
Thanks for the suggestion too as i also believe in straight communication^^
He doesnโt have to know your feelings towards him just as him in a joking kinda way and see how he reacts if you think he can take it ask him in a more serious manner again
Dudeโฆwe both are a bit private people, so mjhe bilkul idea nhi h ki how to ask him โthatโ!๐
Hey I just think you should be upfront with him about this. These types of uncomfy questions will only bring you closer. Trust me on this as I am also dating a guy I met on a dating app a couple of months ago but I still havenโt mustered up the courage to ask him about what he wants from me from us. The whole where do we see us going convo. But i think if you guys have already established a solid ground and are talking fairly well alll day and night, these kinda convos will only bond you and build trust. Remember we can only choose to trust thats the only thing we have our control over. Whether that trust will be kept or not is in fateโs hand so donโt stress much ask him direct - go start off as a joke.
Thanks for the suggestion but the thing is we both are too busy with work to talk with each otherโฆboth are introverts, so we sometimes run out of topicsโฆin short we talk a bit in morning, a bit in afternoon and a bit in nightโฆon days when we both donโt have topics, one of us shares memes/reels lol.
It seems like we conversed for 1 month but if we talk on chat grounds, its like we chatted only for 1-1.5 weeks๐
Bro i feel you a lot. Mera bhi yehi haal h isiliye baat nhi ho pata aur bhi lekin i feel like jaisa bhi pace h aap dono ka you just keep on going. Dont text him any less because of that one notification. Keepnit in your mind but dont let it weigh down your budding relationship. Meet up someday soo and casually joke about it. Donโt come into conclusions without completely feeling it with your whole gut or seeing him tell the truth ekdam aamne samne/at least over call okay? Thats the best possible suggestion I can give you because I want to apply the same in my case hence being this honest and supportive ๐
Dude!! Thanks for the suggestion!! I really mean it heheโฆwe are planning for a meetup (initiative by him) but i am a bit doubtful.
And yk whatโฆi didnโt felt a red flag till now but youโre right, i shouldnโt judge him on the basis on that notification and also i should be careful enough too!
I want to have him a little more open up to me, so i can have less worries about the meetupโฆbut thatโs a seperate thing!๐
It really felt great that we have a bit common background in this situation heheh
I think you should be more careful, just try not to be attached, bcoz u canโt trust anyone in just one month, idk if he went there or not but either way you should not be attached to him
I will try my best to not to fall for anyone that easily but still thanks dude^^
