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Anonymous

I had an argument with my friend.She said that if a man is cheating then a lot of times is because some girls are very big bitches and some of them can seduce him so much that he can’t resist and he may love you but sleep with her because she seduced him and she said that like an exemple if you are married and he did this one time he diserves to be forgiven because there can be a girl that is beautiful and he just could not resist to her in case that she had the initiative to sleep with him.And said to me that the man can maybe one ,two times keep him self to not sleep but one time he may not resist and she was trying to convince me that if a man cheats that is because of the girl that seduced him…I said to her that I am not agree and a real man can control himself and she said yes ,but not always he can control and she was putting a bad opinion not on the man but on the girl,like girls are bitches and seduce man…Can someone please give me an opinion about her words?
And she said that you know,I have a relative and he cheated on her wife for one year but my mother adviced his wife to forgive him because she allready had children with him and after one year that he was with that another woman he regretted and the wife took him back which he appreciated and never did that again and was grateful to her that he took him back because he said that that woman with whom he slept just took his mind and when he realized he returned and will never cheat. And my friend wanted to say to me that if its a one time and its because the girl was so beautiful and seduced him so much that he couldnt resist that is more the girl fault and like his action is understandable.
Do you think she is right because for me a cheater is a cheater and I dont like put all the fault on the girls(like they are bitches and beautiful and seduce and thats why shit happens)what do you think about that?

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Shalin Gupta @shalin99

I mean just ask your friend, what if the situation was opposite? Like what if women cheat with her husband or boyfriend? Will outcome still the same?
I mean if you’re in a relationship then you’re not allowed to find anyone attractive or beautiful, and if you find someone attractive or beautiful or what else then you’re not allowed to have a relationship.

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Anonymous

I asked her allready and she said you know the woman have to estrogen hormone but the men are driven by the tostesterone and they cant control themselves but a woman can control herself more…that was her answer…what do you think?

Shalin Gupta @shalin99

I think your friend either messing with you or she’s already messed up. Let’s just talk whatever she wanna talk and you just keep ignoring her.

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Anonymous

I dont know why she calls such ugly words only the woman who can seduce a man and stays on the men side and says that is all because of woman…

Shalin Gupta @shalin99

I’m telling you she’s messed up don’t give much thought on her talks.
Like if a men can’t control him self then, won’t it happen again? How will he control him self if something happens again? How many times will you forgive that men?

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Anonymous

Right and she said that ohh and she said but if it happened obly one time and he regrets and promise to not happen again she will forgive him…-and I was thinking then ler her be cheated on and forgive and stay in her fantasies that girl are bitches and her husband is just the innocent victim of circumstances…I think you are right,she is messed up and easy to manipulate …but if she doesn’t understand then let her be…to be honest I dont think I want to be friends with her after she dares to judge woman that do not forgive cheating men as being stupid because ohh…the poor man could not resist and that girl is such a bad human on this earth…

Shalin Gupta @shalin99

Yeah don’t be friends with her or you can change her way of thinking… I mean I don’t know her but if you can change her thinking then you should do it. And she can’t change her thinking then yeah you should stop being friends with her.

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Anonymous

forgiving the partner is totally depends on his/her intentions , that he/she will never do this again , its his/her mistake which will not be repeated . But this doesnt mean that his/her partner is innocent and he/she can do whatever they want to . They have to undersatand their values and their respinsibilty about their partners . That can they see their partner with somoen else ? Their trust their love . this is valuable . They cant take granted of these .

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Anonymous

I did not liked that she insulted woman,and said that woman are bitches and was on the men side like men is just the innocent victim of the circumstances…

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Anonymous

yup thats the mentality of general people . They think that if a man cheated then its okay , mard hai pair phisal jaate hain , koi badi baat nh hai . And if someone saw some female with another man , without a second thought , they will give her a perfect name …

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Anonymous

And she asked me so if your husband will cheat on you ,you will not forgive him if he was seduced and I said no and she said that she will forgive and I said ok,forgive (but in my mind I wish before she is so judgmental she better would be first in this situation and after to judge me because I said that I will not forgive)…I feel that she has hate towards woman and all blame on woman,not man…

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Anonymous

may be she is greatly influenced by our society .

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Anonymous

By her mother in first place …that keeps commenting that woman are whores and seduce men…her mother is her first influence from what I am hearing from her…

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Anonymous

this is kind of disturbing , as how can she , men are not doodh k dhule . what if men approached them .?

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Anonymous

She even said that ohh some men cheat but they still come at home and are with their wife which for her now I think becomes normal…and she said well a lot of them cheat but they still choose their wife and will not leave her…I really dont understand why she keeps being on the side of the cheaters and finds for them excuses

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Anonymous

tell ur aunty to stop watching indian serials toomuch , and please dont get too much influenced by them . If a woman talks like this about other woman , as we thinks that a woman only can undersatnd another woman .

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Anonymous

She has to be cheated on and after to see her reaction….she makes from her self all knowledgeable and staying on the cheaters men side…the maybe she has to be cheated on to see her reaction …if on theory she is so knowledgeable…

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Anonymous

we cant do much in this , specially guiding adults about anything . They behave as they know everything about this world .
But we can assure that we will become not like them , and also we will teach right things to our future generations .

Sansthita @sansthita

Well… Clearly, she needs to broaden her mind and come out of her prejudices. And she needs to stop watching serials. Nobody can make a man/woman cheat if he/she doesn’t want to, if he/she is completely loyal to his/her partner. A small piece of advice: Stay away from people who think this way. Khud toh messed up hai hi, aapko bhi messed up kardenge. Never believe this trash. Adults are capable of controlling themselves if they want to. And when they lose control, it’s because they wished to lose control

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Anonymous

I think people are stupid and they make stupid mistakes, sometimes it’s true we cannot resist temptation that’s why some people become addicted to drug, alcohol, ect… Your boyfriend mightve made a mistake and regret it cause people don’t appreciate what’s In front of them until they lose it. My advice would be to give him a second chance. However if he does it again then his not ready for a commited relationship. As for your friend I agree with her to some extent that woman can be seductive and act like bitches but at the end of the day it’s the person’s choice that matters. They choose whether to let a ‘seductive’ woman affect them or not. And different people have different relationship, like you said about your Aunt, she placed the needs of her children first and was able to forgive her husband that makes her a big person compared to others. And her husband at least realised his mistake and learnt to appreciate what’s in front of him.

To sum up what I’m trying to say is to give him a second chance, to right his wrongs. After all, no one’s perfect. 😉

Maybe that’s what your friend was trying to say and didn’t phrase it the best way.🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous

One more thing we’re humans just because we’re married or in a relationship ot doesn’t mean we can just turn off our desires. We’re allowed to admire someone’s beauty and find them attractive it’s human nature. You can’t fault a person for that. If you think being in a relationship is about having the person finding you the most beautiful then that is not realistic. Relationship is about choosing to love and be with someone not because they’re the most beautiful person they’ve ever seen but because they want to be with that person. Most relationship nowadays is based off of physical appearance that is why it doesn’t last long.

And people are all beautiful in their own unique way. You may find a person with angelic beauty and another one with a rugged beauty but at the end of the day they’re both beautiful. And admiring that individual beauty does not make a person a cheater. Neither should it make you think that you’re less beautiful than them. Again, everyone is beautiful in their own way. He is with you because he wants you not them. Remember that. Maybe he got too curious about a different beauty and cause him to make a huge mistake but at the end of the day if he comes back it is you that entrances him. One more time ‘we’re humans, and humans are stupid, and make stupid mistakes’

Peace out ✌
Ps
Don’t be too hard on your friend, plus a reminder, friends do not back stab each other. Remember that.

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