I had a friend(past tense becuase I dont know if we still are friends) back in college we used to talk regularly in college and I feel we had a bond atleast I felt so. So as you all know the world went on a break in March 2020 and then my college declared an emergency vacation, beacuse of which after that we didn’t meet or talk because we only used to talk face to face and not on social media platforms. During the lockdown because of many complications and misunderstandings we didnt talk and now its been almost 9 months to the last time we talked. To be honest I am not a text person I am a face to face person. I want to re-establish my connection with her but I am too afraid to initiate beacause I am not sure how she’ll react. All my close friends tell me to take the lead and text her but I am too afraid and confused to do that.
PS :- I am a male and my friend is a female
Pranjali @pranjalihanda
I guess, your situation has been faced by many people cause obviously everyone is quarantined. And you know, definitely we don’t want to lose a bond where we felt amazing being friends. Misunderstandings can be corrected if we feel to do so. I suggest that you should start a talk and we can use technology in a nice way! Maybe she misses you too and is feeling same as you are doing. It might be difficult to start but that fear is worth getting a good friend back! So please go on.
Thank You So Much !!
With your description , its very diffcult to understand reason for fallout . But if you really wanna revive the friendship… Don’t shy away or fearful to be be the first one to reach out.
1 All you have to do is type a message and press on SEND. Don’t be scared if it. You have not spoken to her since so many months. You have nothing to lose if you send the message…
But If you don’t send then probably you may regret or always keep on thinking same thing . Life is short . so send it.
2 Give her time to respond . Don’t get panic if you don’t get reply immediately. She has right to process this and take her time and reply…
3 If and when you comminicate, listen to her fully.
You also communicate your feelings but without blaming her by what’s bothering you. Clear misunderstanding.
4 If she is not willing to be friend again . Don’t force. Put your ego aside and move on .
5 Regardless of whatever be the outcome. Apologize and forgive…
So message her showing your intention to revive your friendship and clearing all misunderstanding and make your friendship more stronger.But clear all misunderstanding by verbal talks and not text.
Trust there is nothing to lose if you send . we all just face pandemic. I am sure we all learn lessons about how life is .
So Go ahead
Best wishes.
Heyy Thank you so much for your kind words. I think just what I needed to hear
