I had a breakup. We both loved each other a lot. But I had my future planned already. I want to move abroad for further studies. Which will cost me around 4-5 years. He is 29 and his parents wanted him to get married ASAP. He at first agreed to wait for like a year or more and also agreed on moving out with me. Apart from that we had a good relationship. There were ups and downs because of my impulsive and his extremely silent behavior. Suddenly he said he cannot do this anymore. His parents are pressurizing him too much. I begged him to stay. We both cried like babies on a Monday. Tuesday he talked to my mom and explained her the situation. Then I talked to him and said we could work things out but he was so hung up on the one thing that is he did not want to leave his parents at all. I agreed because we all love our parents. He said he will talk to his father on Wednesday. For a year he didnβt tell me my mistakes because of how I would react on Tuesday he told me wherever I went wrong and all. I was hoping since we were having this open chat it would still work out. At the end he said he canβt do this anymore. His father cannot wait and he cannot take his parents pressure anymore. We broke off. I donβt know how to feel about it. He was a great guy. He loved me and helped me grow in many ways but so did I. I chose career but I just asked for some more time as my elder sister is also not married yet. Its weird. We were together for a year but felt like forever. He was my everything. I donβt have his chat on my whatsApp anymore. No calls. No late night video calls. No more weekend meets. Everything feels like it has come to a standstill. I have got my closure and Iβm thinking practically. But somehow itβs just difficult to digest that he gave up.
Priyanka @jknm
Sometimes na your growth personally and professionally is bound to remove people. And one should never stunt their own growth for people who are not aligned with your plans and value . Itβs the most hardest thing to come to terms with but most rewarding part of it will be that when those who do not align with your plan leaves you are actually making space of people who make you feel aligned with your plans and dreams .
And take care of yourself and i have been through same thing the sleepless night without him just because i wanted him to understand my plans and he just said he canβt handle the pressure he can not do anything and that was my call to understand some relationship are not meant to be even though i thought it was perfect for me i was happy as his girl friend but more than being his girlfriend i had my plans and somehow me and him were different on how things would go so it was bit tough like really tough countless no. of crying because i thought he was my everything he could have understood but koi na he is happily married now touchwood and me being focusing on things what i plan to do :) eventually everything will be sorted out so i continue doing things which i need to do
Thanks to who ever you are. Your answer really made sense and a lot of sense actually thank you again. Much love and power to you β€
Can we talk? I donβt want to bug you but hearing this from a girl whoβs been through the same was actually so comforting. Iβm sorry you had to go through this but Iβm so glad you worked things out. Can you give me your insta handle if youβre ok with it.
Priyanka @jknm
yeah sure we can talk and insta id is pybuz so feel free to connect
