I graduated as a chemical engineer in 2018 and soon got a job as Junior Plant Engineer with a 15K per month salary. My friends got a job at an IT company with a good salary and I started comparing myself with them.
Finally, I decided to quit my job and then pursue a data science course, then completed my course in 8 months(Dec 2019). I have really worked hard for it but all in vain.
From that time I have not got a job in any of the company and now I feel that I was better as a chemical engineer.
I have finally understood that I have wasted 2 years of my life because I compared myself with others and whatever I did was only for money.
Its not like I just completed the course and waited for the job to come to me, I did a lot of side projects and learned a lot of new skills, and read a lot of books on Python and data science.
I am 25 years now, and I want to go back to chemical engineering and apply the knowledge of data science to it and go for research.
When I told my parents that I want to pursue Mtech in Chemical engineering, they are not taking me seriously. They are advising me to get any job and compromise with it.
But I am not able to tell them that I tried my level best and I really want another chance to prove myself.
Sometimes I suffer so much from self-regret about leaving the job and not doing anything for 2 years and being a burden on my family.
I really need help.
Hello
We’ve all done things we regret, and sometimes that regret always seems to eat at us. But that’s just the way it is. You cannot dwell on the past it won’t change anything, only make you feel worse. Think and focus on the future. I’ve always believed that things happen for a reason, no matter how bad it currently may seem.
Look on the bright side. Now you have two degrees and learnt a lot of new skills! Those will not fail you. Relax, breathe, go on a holiday. And then come back fresh and ready with everything else behind you. Also remember that you can do whatever you want, because at the end of the day; its your life.
You’ve got this!
bhavya @bhavya2urhelp
HELLO FRIEND! It’s okay to respond like this in such a position at times but don’t let it consume you. You will never be a burden on your family trust me, they think for your betterment only.
Now to the solution, I may sound naive when I say stop comparing yourself to others which is of course true.
The root cause of your problem is comparing itself, earlier you were comparing maybe about money and now the account is that you have wasted your time.(which I am pretty sure you have derived again from comparing yourself that you are lagging behind your peers)
Now in itself firstly you have to solve this problem and the advise which you must have heard is compare yourself to what were you yesterday and not to others. (this is the absolute solution, no way around it) You just have to get better each day and keep track of that and i know you can do it.
Second don’t take impulsive decisions out of comparison. Ask yourself what you want really not the environment and pressure from it.
AND COMING TO YOUR CURRENT situation as you said you want to do mtech and your parents might not support you.
First make sure this decision is not out of whim. How? You might do a job again in this industry for few months(just to test if you really want it), or you may study about it from your home itself. Make you and your family confident about it along with a test if you really want it.
If you want it and parents do not support, make plan, support yourself for higher studies financially on your own on whatever extent.
Believe me don’t let the absolutely stupid belief of age put you in a trap.
Your work is a very important part of your life, find it wisely and patiently.
But again the made advice is be your own competition.
Best of luck! 😀
