I feel so lonely. Ever since i became a mom my husband feels so distant. Hes a great father and caters to all our needs. But its been a while i had an adult and meaningful conversation with anyone. All I do is baby talk with my 5 months baby and talk to my mother in law who is the stupidest human alive. I know he must be tired as well but all I am asking is to have atleast a 15 min talk. But no… he has the energy to stay up all night wathing movies and also the energy to talk with his friends. But not juat 15 mins for me. If I complain he accuses me always complaining and my incapacity to be happy. He says I am always sad. Just now I was stared a conversation and he kept busy in mobile… I said hey atleast hear what i am saying and he said that my talks are boring. I reminded him how intrested he used to be earlier. Than he said he does so much for me and still I complain and bicker him about little thing. This is completely untrue as we rarely talk. Than he got angry threw his mobile and said… okay speak up what do you want to talk about. I am here… i was spell bound and didn’t know what to say… again making him accuse. Than after a while he came to me and asked me whats bothering me and hence I told him how post partum is difficult… i thought hw genuinely wanted to talk but he said that i am not the only wiman who has become a mother and to suck it up with the responsibility. HERE I AM SEARCHING FOR SOMEONE TO TALK TO. I dont want to talk to my friends.
Akash Dalal @skybroker
yes, first of all, congratulation on being a mother. I hope you and your baby are doing good. I understand the negligence of people around you is getting to disrupt your emotions n mental wellbeing. I hope I can listen to you and make you feel comfortable by letting your emotions out. :)
Akash Dalal @skybroker
No worries. it is fine. just take care of your mental wellbeing. :)
good night.
Thanks for the wishes. I am ok with negligence, bur as far as they atleast let me do what i want. Here i am taking care of his responsibilities, his mom at home all he does is get money, which I will be doing soon once maternity leave is done. I just wonder if everything has to be done just by me, what is the need to be with him. Atleast fir a while i will be shifting at my home with my baby. Since morning hes complaining about me being too emotionally demanding. I dont understand 15 min could be demanding? Where as he spent and hour talking to a friend consoling hime about his broken car
I think you’re right like he should give you at least 15 mins … so I’d suggest why don’t you just sit with him and discuss normally not in anger or sadness and ask him too what’s wrong with him hope it works … and if you want someone to talk then I hope I can help you
I tried that, but didn’t work. I am planning to return to my home and not stay with him for a while. Give him the break he wants fron me and the baby. As such i am lonely here ,atleast i wont have to do his responsibilities at home. May be a real break will work. He has his mother to cook him a meal so he won’t be missing me as such. But atleast i won’t have to tolerate his mom who comments me all day and i dint have to see him ignoring me. Atleast i will be in my own zone
Umm that’s a great idea too and yes there you can make more friends
Hi, can get what you must be going through, would love to talk to you.
Thanks… I am just irritated by the fact that he get to do all sorts of things throughout the day. He leaves home at 8 for work, stays there till 6 than returns home by 8 after meeting his friends, he tells me before going and i see the pictures too… it just hurts that he gets out of everything that is intolerable at his home. Baby crying, his irritating mother everything.
It should be tough on you. But, look, maybe people around don’t understand that being a father is difficult for your husband too. Maybe it’s difficult for him in other ways and he’s not able to speak it out. And that could be the reason for him to act not nicely to you. Idk but maybe he also feels alone and wants you to stop focusing on your problems with that situation and instead to show him that you’re on his side. You don’t really want to talk your problems to him, right? You want an adult conversation. Try just talking different things that interests your husband, it can be a good start.
I know some women go to a psychologist after giving birth, because it’s natural to have these feelings (although not for everyone). All this environment also affects your baby. I am sure you and your husband love the child. Try to highlight the brightest moments because it’s not gonna be for a very long time, kids grow up fast. It’s not all just responsibilities.
Also, there is a wee hack from some parents who practice “baby leave”. You can try to find a couple of days for you and your husband to leave the baby for a while with a professional babysitter or a relative, so you can have an adult life time for a while.
I wish your family well ☺️ everything will get better 💜
Yeah… i tried to just talk abt something that interests him. Sports, movies his friends but all in vain. The idea of vacation is good, let me see what i can do… thanks fot talking🙂
Well that didnt work either. As he is planning to go to his cousins wedding. Incanr go bcz of current covid situation. Hence i have decided to go live at my home for a while. As such i have lots of work dumoed by his mom and him and no help and no mental peace. Atleast at my home it will be lonely by being actually lonely. All i will have to do his take care of my babe and my own work. Also he will be happy to get rid of me. If he misses baby he will visit.
Aww I am with you
My mother in law is so.sweet
And other family members are not good .
I got married in this December only .
And now I am in my house with my mom and dad
And lock down happen
Btw I also need a friend
I think we will.match ❤️
