I feel betrayed.
My girlfriend lied to me about her sexual past wich I think has been irresponsible in some way.
We were having sex without me wearing condom because she was on birth control pills and we wanted to try that experience, we were skiping the idea for months but this weekend we did it, after that , she started to talk about the low risk of pregnancy and told me “to not worry that has verified nothing happens several times before”, then proceeded to tell me about her ocasional encounters with undesirable people like (people using “low-life” drugs(meth, solvents, crack), unprotected sex with other ones, low hygiene, etc to paint me the picture, like wtf is wrong with you? You didnt had something else to take by example?.
I need to mention that that she didnt tell me anything of that before getting this far in our relationship and I tough I didnt have any valid reason to ask, she only has told me she had been with 2 guys before me within talks, but recently she likes to start talking about this things randomly and forgetting what she has told me before or at least being worried for her stories to match, all this without her being asked.
We got angry with each other because she says Im overreacting, I know she takes care or thats what thought at least, the thing is I dont want to be exposed to STD´s, the only reason we got to do this was because we though both were being careful with our sexual lifes.
I dont know If I´ll be able to continue with this relation now that we see that our values dont match, she agrees with ocasionall sex, she thinks its pretty normal to have sex with somebody you like, even when it doesnt exist love, now what stops her from cheating on me when she even started to think on the idea of creating an onlyfans account? I dont know… Maybe some people will say its due to my lack os masculism, but I want to hear other peoples opinion.
Thank you for reading this whole post.
Hey! I can understand what you must be feeling. I can understand how the trust between you two must be in jeopardy right now. But, at the same time I feel that her past, be it in a sexual and non-sexual aspect, is hers, and its her choice if she wants to share with her partner or not. It surely isn’t a boundation to be so transparent about it. Yet, where I feel she went wrong is that not mentioning it or being honest about it when you were planning to not use protection. This is because of the scare of getting STDs where even you come in the picture( that is, even you will be affected by it).
Also, she wanting to have sex with the people she like, and not finding love to be an important criteria, is again, her choice. As of you being worried about how committed she is going to be, you need to be honest with her about it. Communicate and figure out if you both are on the same page or not when it comes to the commitment you two are willing to give each other. And if she isn’t up for something that you are offering, and is looking for something more casual instead, then that’s a clear sign for you to let it go…
