Mr. Wick @dexter0911
I dont who need to know this butβ¦
The term βHYPER INDEPENDENCEβ is a result of TRAUMA.
βI dont need anyoneβ and βI will just do it myselfβ really meansβ¦
My ability to trust has been injured by people systemically failing me and letting me down
But dear friend , You need people, We all do :)
READ AGAIN
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No doubt about it.
But we should also leave them alone if they say so I guess, because personal space is also important and when they see they can trust, they will. I hope and wish. (For myself too)
Mr. Wick @dexter0911
leaving them alone, and letting them handle their life are two different things.
i dont believe in leaving people alone
Do you believe in imposing yourself?
Mr. Wick @dexter0911
no β¦ i just believe in being available they need me
Yeah you can be available and sit in another room or just at a distance or leave them with their thoughts until they ask you to sit with them. I understand where youβre coming from and itβs out of compassion and empathy but sometimes we have to do things that are hard for us, that is letting people figure themselves and their life out without influencing them and ofc being always a call or near enough so they can reach you whenever they want. We need to trust others to know whatβs best for them too, just live we think we do for them and ourselves. I had to learn this myself, that sometimes we suffocate people by not giving them space for themselves.
Rest ofc youβre your own person Iβm sure youβll figure this out for yourself and do whatβs best for the one you want to care for and best for you when itβs for you.
Mr. Wick @dexter0911
βofc being always a call or near enough so they can reach you whenever they wantββ¦Thats what i said
and
Technically you cant babysit an adult no matter person is depressed or not
I have and not just once, so I disagree with you on baby sitting an adult.
But glad we agree on the other things
Mr. Wick @dexter0911
yeah β¦ honestly i cant babysit adultsβ¦
i lack patience and empathy. :)
Youβre a lucky one! :D π
Mr. Wick @dexter0911
yeah β¦ there balance of being unlucky as well π€£π€£π€£