I don’t know whether it’s depression or not.I have been sad for 3 months now and it’s not ending. He broke up with me. I just cannot do anything. I am exhausted. I miss him a lot. He says we’ll be friends. But how the fuck is it possible to be friends? I just cannot take it anymore. I have tried everything possible to get him back. But he isn’t understanding. I don’t want to lose him. I think only about him every fucking minute. I am tired of this now. I spend whole day thinking about him only him it’s been 3 months now & the worst thing is we study in same college. I am scared to go to college after my vacations. How will I face him? What if I breakdown infront of all? He ended with me at the time of exams. It was the worst time for me. I don’t have any friends left with me now. I am so alone & lonely. I was dependent on only him. I feel I have nothing left to do now. I am so lost. I can’t say this at home also. I feel so depressed. I haven’t give up on our relationship yet. I still want to try. But he isn’t understanding anything. I really need him. I NEED him. I really love him a lot. I just can’t afford to lose him at this point of my life. I am so lost.
I am so deeply sorry, time means nothing when you are healing. I’m going through the same thing right now and one thing I’ve learned is to try and focus on yourself and find things that you genuinely enjoy doing.
That thought of focusing on myself his & that doesn’t even cross my mind. I only think about him the whole time & the ways how to get him back. I know he loves me. But he is still doing this. I don’t know what to do now?
tesla @good_lizard
I’m very sorry for what’s happening with you. I am going through the same situation right now and can understand your state of mind. It’s very tough to let go off the person who you once loved with your whole heart. But even after trying, if the person doesn’t return, it is time to let go. I know letting go isn’t easy but one thing which i learned and would like to share is “if it’s meant to happen, it will happen” if you’re meant to be with that person you’ll be with them no matter what the situation. Just try to focus on yourself, work on yourself, try working on your hobbies. Trust me you’ll overcome everything. All the best.
Thank you for replying. Will try & wish you the same.
• This was 3 months ago. He moved on so please forget about him and move on
• He was direct and honest with you that he didn’t want to be in a relationship with you so it’s time for you to face the reality and accept your truth.
( There are somethings that you have mentioned here that’s honestly little bit scary sis, ngl )
• You mentioned that “you’ve tried everything to make him love you” - girl don’t do that, it’s not worth it. You cannot make someone (or) force someone to love you. If you truly care about just let him go.
• you have also mentioned that “you were dependent on him” - never depend on your partner. Sometimes dependency can lead to over attachments and now that’s why when he broke up you weren’t able to let him go.
• You also mentioned that “you don’t have any friends” - then ilthia this the perfect time for you to get out of your shell, make new friends, go outside, travel, do what you love, eat what you like and overall enjoy your college days.
• you also mentioned that “you were scared to face him in college” - sweetie he is your EX not some monster. Eventually you have to face him and the reality and accept the truth and move on. The sooner you do the better it is for you.
• you also mentioned that “you still haven’t given upon your relationship with him” - but he “did” give up on the relationship with you and he moved on after breaking up with you. And this happened 3 months ago. If you still want to try to work the relationship that’s already over then it shows that you don’t have any self respect and you are simply down bad for him.
• the last thing you mentioned was that “you NEED him” - girl you don’t NEED him, just move on jeez 🤦🏽♀️. At first I was very sympathetic towards you and felt really bad for you but after this particular line it shows that you’re kinda obsessed with him or just obsessed with the idea of being with him ( I’m really sorry girl but that’s how I felt after reading this line 😬 )
• If you are not obsessed with him and if you “truly love him” then be happy for him, let him, go and move on. I know moving on is not that simple but try getting help from therapist. You need to love yourself before you can love someone else. It’s better for you to let go of the past and focus on your future.
• You are still in college and you have your whole life ahead, I’m pretty sure one day you will definitely find the right person at the right time. Until then you gotta have some patience. But once again I’m letting you know that this guy isn’t the one for you.
SO PLEASE GET SOME HELP AND MOVE ON SISTER 🙏🏽
