I don’t know if this would help but I’ve been trying everything lately. I’ve been in a 6 year long relationship and like any other person I made plans for our future and I introduced my partner to my family (like literally everyone lol) and everyone loved her. Everything was going fine, we decided to move to abroad for higher studies and better job. I came a year before her so that I could adjust to everything this country has to offer hoping that I could be there for her if I know all the formalities before, if she needs anything. Well, after she came to abroad she started dating another guy and I had no clue (ofcourse I couldn’t doubt her). I was busy figuring out job for me and doing her assignments (along with mine). Anyway, I think what I’m trying to say is that I’m trying to get over her from a long time and I’m trying everything that I can, I feel fine when I’m doing that activity but when I come back home, It’s the same shit again. Open to any thoughts…:) thanks for reading.
That is such a hard thing to go through. I spent 3 years in a depression after my heart was broken. The only thing that really helped me was God. I prayed and asked God to heal my heart and He did. He helped me to see how that guy wasn’t actually good for me and helped me to stop obsessing over the hurt I felt. Emotional healing is so necessary for us to move on and be free from that heavy pain we carry around. I also found that from laughing really helped after crying so much. There is this show called Workaholics and I started watching it one day and found it so funny that I couldn’t help but laugh and it pulled me out of the darkness. It sounds cheesy or cliche but it really helped.
I went through a major breakup and it was a 6 year relationship. I tried using some dating apps not for hookups but to talk to more people and share what happened with me - it helped. I slowly got over that person as I started talking to some many people who understood my problem and had gone through similar issues and it all worked out! This might help
I tried doing that…like talk to people. I do this thing where I talk in my mind first before putting it out and whatever I was going to tell, it felt that I’m basically making her look really bad, even though it is what happened. I mean I shouldn’t care now but I did love her before and prolly still do. So, I’m like just trying not to talk about it when someone asks.
But you should. She might not be a bad person and you would’ve shared some great times together but it’s you alone now and you gotta do what’s best for you and in my case it was venting out and when I saw that there were people who understood me and genuinely tried to get to know me better and be there for me is what actually helped me move on to see that there are better people that exist. Sometimes it’s just that one shoulder to cry on!