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I don’t have any close friends and I’m very lonely. Rn I’m in a relationship where my partner isn’t valuing me but I don’t have energy to leave him. I fear I’ll be lonely alot and wouldn’t be cope with the stress.
What should I do?

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Anonymous

Find someone new

Anonymous

-1

Anonymous

+2 🙂

Anonymous

Bro ek relationship k baad hmesha time Dena chahiye then go for the next one if you want to play safe else you are taking risk again.
I’m the third person who commented +1😂

Anonymous

I get you since i had gone through the same thing before… Ig you should take a break from the relationship for now … And then think about it… Did he ever made you feel special? Does he have your back when you r low? If no then you have to lev him honey! Not becz u dont love him… But because you need peace

Anonymous

I know I’ve to and ik it’s the right thing to do but I’m way too scared to be lonely if I do so as I mentioned I don’t have any close friends.

Anonymous

believe me when i say i was once in your shoes, your partner is hindering you from stuff, it’ll def take alot of energy and emotions to end it, but if he isn’t valuing you, its better if you end it as soon as you can. you will be a stronger person once you come out of it , just know you’re strong and you dont have to stay for the sake of some stupid shit like , for example maybe you’ve had alot of relationships in past and when you started dating him you must have thought this is it, this is forever(saying this because it was me at some point of my life) but you will only feel better once you get out of toxicity and you can always find someone better ;)

Anonymous

But how to be strong? What if I fail? What if I couldn’t handle it?

j

before you take any step you never feel that it will be good 100 percent. If you are hurt by your partner (even after you tell him what hurts you) its definitely the time to end things. You can start a new routine, its sounds crazy but once you start feeling good about yourself it’ll all pass away. Or maybe think of it in a long run, may be if you don’t end it now , you will be together for, suppose you some how end up marrying that dude, and he hurts you, what are are you gonna do about it, let him hurt you forever or choose a good life. Im not saying ki bas kardo sab khatam, but just know that, no one should be “the end of the world” for you.

j

Loving is never tough, its the easiest and most comforting thing you can do or get. You don’t have to force yourself to love, its not love in that case. You won’t have any doubt or feeling of hurt once you strike paths with someone who really loves you:)

j

Other thing you can do is, communicate. Sounds v v cliche but. What you can do is. Ask him that “this stuff” bothers you and be clear. Maybe ask him that you want a break. BREAKS FROM RELATIONSHIPS, dude whenever you are doubtful in relationship take a break, let your brain breath, may be 2-3 weeks , but us time me you really realise ki you want to be w them or not and it comes out clear. And do stuff for yourself at that time, wakeup early, do a skin care ge yourself a nice lill hair trim feel goooood about yourself

Anonymous

That’s right…thank you so much!!

Anonymous

If your partner doesn’t value you then it’s not good for either of you. You should leave the relationship and try to find nice people. Or the best thing to do? Try to find joy within yourself! Focus on loving yourself. Ik cause I’m doing the same now. I don’t have anyone to talk as well but it doesn’t bother me much anymore.

Anonymous

I’m so happy for you!!! Mind shating tips?

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Anonymous

There’s nothing above your mental peace… be it your partner, be it your insecurities or anything else.
Take your time, talk to people, analyse is it actually that worse?
Once you are sure with what the problem is then only make your decision.
My advice would be to remove all the toxicities from your life & start fresh.
Don’t come into another relationship just to move on from that guy.

Anonymous

I don’t want another relationship or situationship too but I feel I’m too weak to let go the last person I’m close to even to focus on my dreams and myself. I don’t know how to explain this.

Anonymous

I can understand what you are going through.even I’ve been in a similar situation like this. But believe me there’s nothing superior to the will of God & you won’t even get to know when you will be out of this pain.

Anonymous

I hope so… thank you so much!!

Anonymous

If he’s not valuing you then you should probably leave. I’m guessing you are going through a lot in life and you don’t need some toxic person to be in it. If you already see yourself less then you don’t need someone to agree with you. It’s not healthy at all and will make your situation even worse. If you’re tired dealing with bs from the people around you then don’t take any more person in your life that will throw only more bs.

Anonymous

But then maybe I’ll be left alone.

Anonymous

But is it worth it to be with that guy who clearly don’t care about you than freeing yourself from these toxic people but you’ll be left alone? I think your bf isn’t there for you at all so what does being alone means any different? They’re not their for you so they could take your loneliness away but put more pressure, stress, and negativity on you.

Anonymous

So true!!! Thank you!

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dont be with him if he doesnt treat you the way you should be treated, if you feel lonely, i can be your online friend but just dont focus on people who don give a shit, i also recently broke up with my boyfriend cuz he talked shit about me and constantly compared me to other girls

Anonymous

I would love that!! Where can we talk?

Anonymous

How about telegram?

0

yes alr and am so sorry for the late reply i totally forgot to check this app, ill add you give me your @

0

ofc yes!

Anonymous

Tell me a fixed time so that I’ll comment my @ then only and delete it as soon as you see it.

0

oh um hb now? or wait ill post my @

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also like text me there and i’ll delete my comment asap

Anonymous

Hey i saw it. I’m sorry for seeimg so late

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its ok i replied there