I did something wrong. I knew it was wrong and I still did it. I had an affair after 14 years of marriage. It didn’t last long and I ended it but the guilt of these actions kill me. This year was really hard for me. I stopped going to my therapist and that’s when I made this horrible mistake. I’m thankful for this man and it really sucks that this was how I had to realize how much he matters to me. He puts up with all my baggage, he’s supportive, loving, and a wonderful father. Although he has his spurts of angry towards our children. I want to try, I want to be better, I want to make the relationship better and I’m trying. I really messed up. He doesn’t know and I want to keep it that way. I wouldn’t want to be with me if I were him. I really feel like a terrible human being.
Ujjwal @ubrdj
Well life has its own way of giving lessons until a person understands what’s good or bad for him/her…You had your realisation and that’s great!!
First of all get back in touch with your therapist and don’t break the chain until it is advised or there’s an emergency.
Secondly please don’t make assumptions how he would react or behave if he gets to know about you…
If you feel you can make things better without telling him anything then it’s fine but it would be great if doesn’t get to know anything from any other source as well(other than you) as it may further complicate things…So it’s better if you wish to share all your experiences with him whenever you feel the time is right or as per your convenience so that there are no more regrets or overthinking!!
Take care and stay blessed!!
Simran @st1199
Hi!
It’s good that you realized your mistake. Lets’ not give it as an excuse that not going to a therapist made you take this step. You being an adult having kids is sensible enough to differentiate between a marriage and an extramarital affair. You did it because you felt right.
Since you are under the guilt of what you did, my advice you should tell him and confront him. Obviously, he will have his own way of handling it but you will have that burden go away and feel like that I told him by being honest and he has the right to know what you did to him.
