I broke up because i had a lot of issues. I kept doubting everything ie his intentions, actions, i felt highly insecure, i always think that i am not being cared for, i felt like i am not the priority, i felt like i am just no one to him. I felt highly insecure, i felt he’ll eventually just go. He did not reply to me for hours when his friends were around and it just made me so uneasy. I really couldnt handle all these negativities and i just broke up. I dont know the reason for feeling this way, i just cant figure it out. After breakup i do miss him but i am at peace too (kind of) since all those doubts insecurity negativity ended with ending that relationship. Did i do the right thing by breaking up? What should i do
It’s good that you moved on. Just forget everything and think about improving yourself.
You attract what you fear. You thought that he’ll leave you anyway and that’s what happened, you both parted ways. Instead of discussing with him all the issues you had, all insecurities in a polite way and resolving everything over time, you thought it was easy to just end it. You gotta put the efforts man, it just won’t happen for happening sake.
I have tried sorting it out before. I have shared all this with him before. Its been months trying. It always comes down to this that all the problems are happening because of my doubts my insecurities. And now i am honestly done with his explanations to these. I dont trust those explanations anymore. Situation is getting worse rather than getting better. What do i do
Sanket @sanket
You sound like just because you were highly insecure, you broke up…
Does not sound like a solid reason to break up, at least to me.
Have you tried clarifying all the doubts & insecurities? Have you tried addressing them?
I have tried sorting it out before. I have shared all this with him before. Its been months trying. It always comes down to this that all the problems are happening because of my doubts my insecurities. And now i am honestly done with his explanations to these. I dont trust those explanations anymore. Situation is getting worse rather than getting better. What do i do
Sanket @sanket
Since you have already broken up, just stay disconnected. Do not initiate any conversation from your end. If he contacts, do talk but in a formal way, just stick to the point, nothing extra. If he wants a second chance then first ask him to improve. Take a break before getting in a relationship.
Meanwhile also figure out what things made you insecure, how can you fix it from your side, where and how things started being wrong in your relation.
This is gonna be a tougb phase, you have enjoyed in past, you will have to deal with some sadness now, things are just balancing themselves…
Makes sense. Thanks
You watch two things . Dear zindagi movie of Aliya Bhatt and Monica and Chandler love relationship from you tube . Monica n Chandler are characters of famous tv show friends from 90s. U sound like Aliya and Chandler. U will definitely get answers. And don’t be too afraid to deal with fears. And I will definitely not say to go to him again bcoz if u can’t feel secure then definitely no need to start relationship again . Relationship is all about security peace of mind
