I am someone who is extremely conscious about my weight. I guess it is because I was very skinny as a kid, so skinny, that my maths teacher didnt think it necessary to provide me my my own seat seeing as i could fit in the extra corner of her bed where she kept her books. But then i stepped into my teenage years and suddenly it seemed to me that over the night i gained all this weight and developed breasts that are too big for my short height. And it was like i became a different person with all these changes happening in me. And i hated it. I hate when people comment on my sudden weight gain and advice to do this and that. I hate it when i look into the mirror and couldnt see myself anymore. I hate it when every time i dont fit in my own clothes as my chest wont allow it. To be honest I am not that fat. I am your average heavy person. My chest just sticks out badly making me look like a balloon. And i dont have a problem with my weight because i want to look good. I am a complete tomboy who doesnt think twice before throwing on something of my brother’s for any occasion. No, I have a problem because this isnt me. I wasnt like this… And i just cant get that out of my head. I have tried so hard to lose weight, too hard. But i cant exactly get rid of my chest can i? I have been the worst friend to myself. I have exercised, cycled, jogged and i eat less than you can imagine. Nothing works. And sometimes i obsess so bad about my weight, that i do things in frustration. What am i doing wrong?
I know I need to stop. I know my weight defines nothing about me. I know i need to make peace with who i am. I just cant start. I dont need anybody to tell me that I am beautiful, but if anyone, anyone at all can relate, or even if you dont, i would like to hear about your story.
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Hey dear I really don’t know about this situation because I never go through and actually I don’t know about girls obviously I’m a boy but I had other stories of myself like I felt so much anxious whenever somethings doesn’t happens according to me which you know never happens so I always scared to talk someone or meet and actually still I’m that and sometimes peoples call me arrogant or emotionless or silent one even my teacher call me drug addict because I don’t answer her or do things as she ask so plenty of things happens with me teachers said me plenty of things even in one presentation I was stammering and they make fun of me due to this recently if you read my post then my gf cheats me and business which I start it last year look like drowning and my parents wanted me to do something else I’m facing serval depression type of things and everyday is so much cruel but still life is beautiful still I found peoples who wanted to help me without even know my name so life is like that sometimes we doubt ourself actually most time but remember our time is limited so make it worth and smile you are really a cute person
Thanks for sharing, and you know what? Even though our stories are nothing alike, i actually did smile, not because of all the troubles you are going through but because for the first time i felt heard. I act cool about this infront of people you see, i was only honest here. And it felt good.
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
It felt good when someone heard you and understand and by the way I hope whenever you face something you just smile and feel good because somewhere when you write something someone will heard you and maybe then you smile again and be honest in this world very less people who are actually honest 😊
Ujjwal @ubrdj
Hey I just wish to know one thing before I give some advice and share my own story regarding the weight gain and weight loss issue.
Have you ever consulted an Endocrinologist?? Or have accessed the situation taking into consideration hormonal imbalance or changes?
Yes i did actually. But i just went to a gynecologist because i was facing some problems there as well. He suggested an ultrasonography, but i came out clean.
Ujjwal @ubrdj
Okay then I’ll start with my life experiences, struggles and learnings. Please note I’m still in the process of working out things for myself.
Post that I’ll give you some suggestions that may help you:
As a kid it was going fine and I had an average weight but as I attained the age of 8, I could find that I started gaining weight and back then I didn’t care much. Being a chubby kid everyone around me would love to play with me and everyone said you should remain the same, but that looks cool until a specific age… Growing up sometimes I started losing weight when I followed some common advise like working out, eating less but all that was short-lived…just focusing majorly on academics I would gain it back easily… Gradually I didn’t care much for a couple of years and then there’s a turning point in everyone’s life…Mine came in 2012, it took me an year to convince my mom that I want to join a gym and start working out… finally joined one, made all attempts I could and even got results(lost about 15 kgs within 3months) but even that was short-lived as the results were from having an extreme diet(no carbs n only proteins) and working out each day for atleast 2 hours…Then work and life responsibilities took over my plans and again the weight gain started…another turning point in 2017 but then again corporate life, work and traveling made me give up the healthy routine… Eventhough I have been lucky enough to find great guidance, coaching and advise but still time wasn’t in my favor.
A little fed-up with all this I started collecting relevant resources and started studying on how I can start working on myself as per timelines(keeping aside all other problems and situations in my life). I realised that I needed customized plans for myself whether it’s for diet or workout. There’s nothing like one size fits all here. Everyone has a different structure and body composition. Accordingly there’s need to plan out things. There’s no need for extreme dieting or extreme workout. Eating the right things and at right intervals and exercising regularly(not doing anything excessively)can do wonders.
Finally in December 2020 started working on myself again and I am getting results as well, just an ankle twist earlier this week has kept me away for a few days but I’ll be getting back again from tomorrow 😊
What you can do:
1) Get in touch with an Endocrinologist, I feel that will help as I have a cousin(female) who faced similar issues and there was some hormonal imbalance, with right guidance and some medication things got better and now following a healthy lifestyle luckily there are no issues.
2) You don’t have to follow anyone blindly, you need to research and find the root cause. Then plan accordingly and hopefully everything will be good.
3) Don’t be disheartened as you haven’t exhausted all the ways and you’ll surely find a way out.
4) I’ll be happy to share all the resources I have collected and all my learnings.
I feel they’ll help you or anyone who needs it.
Take care and stay blessed 🙏🙏
Thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate it.
Sneha Anand @sneha08
Hey! Thank you so much for sharing the way you did.
And I am so so happy the way you ended. Yes, your weight doesn’t define you.
Even I was so so skinny too during my school days, but I never allowed anyone to bully me for the kind of stern attitude I had towards those people but I know for the fact that people find their own stupid way to talk shit, if not infront of you then behind you.
And somewhere, I was conscious about it too. Even during my acne days, I had people coming up to.me and randomly giving me advice, it’s fuckin irritating.
I totally understand where you’re coming from and I know for the fact that you’re intelligent enough to not take these superficial remarks and ruin your peace of mind.
More power to you and I know you said you don’t wanna hear this, but I am gonna say it anyway, You Are beautiful 🌈🌻🌼
Turtle @turtle09
Hey anonymous.
I can understand how are feeling right now.
There are people around me aswell who dont let me love myself for being myself. I used have weight fluctuations very often and its really hurtful when my mom who should support me, always complaints about how many dresses I buy and end up not wearing them. But she stopped once I told her firmly how she is hurting me.
Im just trying to make peace with my body shape,size and weight but it is not easy .
Having bigger breast can latch down ones confidence. I am trying to invest more money on better support bras. I would like to think about reduction surgery ,but I have to try loosing weight and see if it changes anything.
Since you have already tried work out, I shall suggest you to try workouts with proper coach.
I could only assure you that you are not alone in this.
🙂
