I am new at this soo idk what to say .....i guess this is a rant. So i have a boyfriend..Both of us agreed to keep it casual since we knew i would get an arranged marriage. I am 21 btw. I got a match through a party i went to yesterday and his mother loves me now. I am in my final semester of college and that guy is 26 years old....earns well and uk the shit. My bf is also nice sweet and is successful......i already got a job....no financial problems or anything.My bf is young too so i cant randomly ask him abt marriage that will spook him and i cant reject this guy without a legitimate reason....he is okay with me studying after marriage and shit man.....

Yes you ca study after marriage also but it's a little difficult you know .

I n my boyfriend are in relationship from past 6 yrs .. 
but now it’s our age of getting married .. but I’m
Very stressed how to say this to my dad because according to him 25 is not a right age to get marry 🥺n on the other hand my boyfriend’s parents are forcing him to get marry .. what to do how should I make my parents understand 😭

3am Thoughts

Hey I need major help. I love my bf, we've been together for months. And he's helped me through really rough times. But idk there's just something really bugging me. I used to feel like he was the one for me, like there was nobody else in the world. But lately I've been having mixed feelings about it. He's really sweet, and nice. But sometimes he'll just leave without warning. He gets way too jealous when I hang out with my BFF and even talks bad about her. He doesn't like me hanging with anyone when he's not there. Idk what to do. I love him, I truly do. But there's something inside of me now that just really makes me want to take a break but I don't want to hurt him at all. I haven't been myself since we met, and I've become too dependent on him. I just need some time to be me again, but I really don't want to hurt him cuz I'm scared he'll hurt himself. And he means a lot to me. Help?

Stress

So I stopped talking to my ex few months ago because it was giving me depression and anxiety. I used to tell him to not call and text but he wouldn't understand , so I finally blocked him. 
But today My friend saw him on bumble. I dont ever wnt him back but I am feeling bad. He was my first bf but it was all bad. He lied to me a lot, he was embarrassed of me so he I think kept it a secret that we are together as in gf- bf from his friends. He used to make fun of me and also sometimes he'd say things indirectly to me that you dont look good and all. He literally was using me and he took advantage of my vulnerability because I didn't have much friends and I was all alone. He was even jealous of me for some reason. He is literally the definition of toxic lying two timing motherf"'er.
All the memories i thought were good, were actually real bad. I feel so bad. I dont think I am ever gonna trust anyone


I feel so bad now thinking about all that time, I was so naive and in love and trusted him but all that time I was just a prop for him. Why tf I am so dumb naive nice and good , so that people can take advantage of me.
Life would have been somuchh easy if I was an asshole.



Relationships

Hi , i am 19F , I have been going through a very tough time and none of my friends know about this. I am in a relationship with this guy since 2 years now and he is already married and going through divorce , He kept his marriage a secret. Later when things came out everything was a mess and a huge disaster. should i be with him or not?? This is making my life very confusing and m not able to concentrate on anything else. What should I do? I had no one to talk to about this all

Depression

Hii, I does not know should I share this to a social platform or not , but I am so messed up that either I can completely go in depression or I take out all my inner feelings and thoughts, 
I would like to tell u it's really long and u might think it's fake as well but morever I need some suggestions and advice to make my life better

So here the story starts- I was 20 years when i left my home town for higher studies(MBA) and to fulfill my dreams to get a high profile living style. I was in a relation ship and it was really really nice that we made a perfect couple and was admired by the boy's family, the only issue I had with my guy (Let say him as S) that he was not much caring or serious about his career and his future, all his thinks is just be in present n enjoy, sometimes we fought due to this as well but he was too much understanding and he gives me freedom to live my life the way I want and same I do for him and it was 2.5 years relationship and we got intimated too many times as we share mutual thoughts in atmost things 
and we were this much open to each other that we told each other especially he that if we he or me found anyone better than us n see our future with other than any one of us can break this relation at any point by saying this or such genuine thing 

so once I left my home town for MBA, he started becoming more serious for me and really fall in love me but it was too late and due to my hectic schedule I was not giving him much time except some msgs or call once a day that too less than 2 or 5 mins

during this period in 1 semester of my MBA, like other students I too was allotted a mentor (Let say him as N) and he is young and too strategic but not so fair n bit fat but tall guy

I don't know when things started becoming close between us as I was too studious and focused n my studies so I use to stay till late evening with other students and mentor just to learn and complete my task 

and due to this we group of 20 students become friendly and so our mentor too. and we use to get 3-5 mentoring sessions in a week and we stay till late evening and use to eat n share lot of enjoyment
so it's natural whenever we eat anything especially sweet we ill become thirsty but my mentor was too much busy n focused in work that he don't leave any work untill it completed and my nature is kind of caring for all so I use to give him water before he ask or go for water cooler

due to this he felt that when I m caring this much to an unknown guy than how much I can care n love to my husband

so this stays for long and he use to call me in his cabin n teach me lot of things and subjects to make me stand different out of others

and one day finally it was 30 october our professional conversation become personal as I was going to a college trip and he was too much tensed for my security and no boy or male should be near me so he keep on asking lot of things from that day we started chatting every second we got chance and all these was known to my guy (S) as I do not have habit of hiding anything from him and as he was pretty cool so he don't mind 

but finally one day he (N) proposes me that he will like to marry me and he already know that I am in relationship but he said no hurry I just want u to consider me only once when u going to marry I will wait for u 

I thought a lot but somehwere I was stuck like he is well settled and is very smart and strategic and loves me like a hell that people started teasing me by his name, adult n mature guy whereas my guy is not so much serious about me n relationship n his career

so i taken some time and then I rejected his proposal (N) just to see his care n love like a test for him

but finally hhe was same thereafter also and I told him that yes I will come to u but I am not virgin, he said if this only problem than i don't have any issues 

and after this we got committed and went to few trips with our friends n other faculties like a official trio but whenever we use to get chance we sahre some loving moments

than after one month we went for movie out of the city n where he got romantic and ask me to touch his part but i felt uneasy n denied it
this incident hurted him a lot and he said me only one thing that U CAN GET INTIMATE TO THE GUY U WERE NOT SURE ABOUT BUT FOR ME WHO IS GOING TO BE UR HUSBAND UR LIFE , U R TREATING ME LIKE SOMEONE FORCING U'

these words hurted me a lot and but I console myself that it's natural if i be in his place than i might be felling same 

so somehow I managed to make him agree to go out for intimation
and before this he already told me that he likes a girl (Let say her as G) from his UG but couldn't get relationship n marriage as he n she was too poor but now she is just like a normal friend
I didn't said any as I m too open mind 

we got intimated and it became frequently including going out for 2-3 days just nearby cities

In the second trip, we fought too much due to some clg issues but one thing I was hiding from him that I am in touch with my ex(S) just like a friend n some issues happen in his home,

after this incident he was completely changed, started torturing me like anything like he wants to know how i got intimate with this guy(S) what position where he touch hell lot of that no one  can imagine
in this duration he went his home town n we keep on fighting for the same reason
and my exams were going on I left my exams due to pressure n frustation and failed in semester 2

when he came back he came with a story that he met with his ex- (G) and she was asking him to marry as they were waiting for the right time for 12 years 

so he asked me what should I do and he cannot marry me if he want than he have to leave everyone n everything n be abscond from the entire known people including parents family and all, 
Before this he asked me to go away but I always consider my mumma as she suffered a lot and I want to give her something from my side 

and after this I was completely blank, I said him to n marry her n leave me than he said he cannot leave me whereas we cannot leave our families 

so he just skipped all these marriage n other family issues for a year and keep trying for making our relationship and my placement also started already I failed in sem-2 
but during this period also we keep on fighting sometimes reason was genuine sometimes it was for silly like why I am talking to boys why i am holding a girl hand  as he is too too too much sensitive and short tempered

I know that he is in touch with his ex(G) but as professional terms as they use to write research papers together 

and our fight keep on continuing but than also we use to find some good n happy moments n we went to trips multiple times...

I got job in one company far away from him but there was some issues and I left it and before leaving my college we mutually agreed that we will drop our relationship as it's not working and will move on 

all happen same way and I moved back to my home town with no job no dreams fulfill 
due all these pressure and I got fracture in my foot I texted him very rudly like he is responsible and all shit things I said to him

after 1 month of when I in my home town one night
he suddenly texted me by asking my location  n shared it the moment as I was missing him n other feelings 
he was just outside my home
i went to see him but due to my society restrictions i didn't sat in his car n saw him from outside people stared coming near I went than i felt so bad and decided to go with him
near my home town another city we went n stayed as living for 40 days 
within this 40 days we fought multiple times and i saw his worst face as he beated me with his shoes put my head on wall 
and my face was spoiled n swellon 
I cannot go back with this face as i said my family i m going in search of job n few of my friends stayed with me

somehow we managed to sort all but we still use to fight 
he asked me to come back to my clg city as it is a industry hub n lot of job opportunities and he is feeling guily coz of him i didn't got job n failed in my dreams
seeing my family problem i came back with him
i got job too in a MNC
and he promised me he will give me whatever I will ask him if i cracked that particular company and I did it

when I asked him to marry me - he was completely blank and didn't answered me any 

i became too much upset as i expected he will say yes n will be too happy coz he has cried almost every day whenever we use to fight or i m not in talking due to all these even he did worst to me I accepted him n taken step from my side 

but after 1 week he informed me that he is going to get engage in 2 weeeks to his ex- (G) as he is getting too much family n relative problems due to his age and his parents ran away from his home coz he said not to marry

and marriage is after 5 months 

i am completely done in all terms 

i came with him by expecting he will marry me as he committed me and coz of him , coz of his wish i left each n everything whatever i gained in my entire life like friends as he don't like my friends coz we talk openly about sex n share all things , my career even to be with him I left my mother 

now he is saying I cannot do anything as of now all decision is in your hand but i cannot be without ur updates n ur love

and most hurting thing i found the chat of him n his fiance(G)  with whom till last 1 week he was saying it's just professional 
and i found the chat of last 6 month that they r in gf-bf relationship 

I cannot believe that he could do this n the major problem is whatever i feel for him and the way he made me 
i m trying hard to recover my self but i m failing 

and i want him to the core 
he is expecting me to be same like how i m with him even he got married n all

and he is asking me to wait for him for 10-15 years once he will complete all his responsibilities he will come back n we will marry n live our life 

i can't get how he can think like this 

i m not ready to be with him once he got engage n married as I am not a SLUT 

but i m ready to wait for him as my feeling r my problems i cannot become what i was and he is always comparing my past relationship with his this situation

suggest me what to do and how could I control myself from not giving what he asked for 
coz i know one thing that i cannot be without seeing him or getting his updates 

Please suggest


My friend is ignoring me but why i don't know he is always busy with his work and I'm waiting for him all day i reply every text in 2 sec but after that when he is online and I'm busy for 2 min then he say you are busy i don't want to talk with you 🙂🙂


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Joined #nowandme long time ago....was engaged in a lot of work so back after more than a year .....
Here to share something very upsetting ....like literally after my first heartbreak I was not able to share my feelings and life with someone new but then a person came to my life unknowingly I was not in the state to accept that love from him but ended up falling for me.....
But guys now I am in big trouble because I have felt that maybe I'm boring to him like he slept early and doesn't have time for me...
I have communicated things with him many times and tried to sort them out .... Many of the times I said to end this relationship but he didn't want to end and assured me that he'll not make the same mistakes again but still he doesn't change a single but I can't bear this anymore guys .....
What should I do?



I think I am still stuck in Nov 2019. 
2 year of relationship. I was loved, cared, been honest, been lied to, cheated on. Convinced myself things will change and they did but only for 2 years. 

After 2 year this guy cheated me with someone I knew, my family friend, partially my mentor. She knew we were in a relationship still they were togather got physical. I had no clue about it for 1 month. This guy left me without any warning or giving me any reasons. I doubted myself begged him to stay been just physical to feel close to him without knowing he was sleeping with someone else also. I found out one day and I was into broken pieces. He had no courtesy of giving me any explanation whenever I use to why are we breaking up or why you not talking to me, he always said he was done with relationships he want to be alone for a while. But he was okay being physical.

I got to know about the relationship but I was still involved with him because I just couldn't let go. 

March,20 he broke up with that girl because he felt he made a mistake, he was back talking to me. I was selfish I wanted him. I continued speaking to him. 

November, 20 he found someone else she is married

January,21 he is with someother fling. 

And now we aren't talking. 
Because no matter how much I love him he is really okay losing me. And I know sleeping with will not get him back. But it was really special. I think I will get over it but I keep thinking about it and he is okay with everything makes me stuck weak and emotional fool. 

There was a time he couldn't wake up with out a call now he doesn't even care if I exist. 

This amuses me next level & my heart hurts and I can't stop it. 

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