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Anonymous

I am in a relationship with this guy for 2 years now . And is currently unemployed(he wants a govt job). He says his parents are strict no love before career. He says he loves me and is sure that he will marry me but just give him some time to get a job then he will talk to his parents and my family . But my family is looking for a guy to get me married . Every week they bring a new guy to get me married. And I couldn’t tell them about my bf cos he said not to.
Should I dump him or what ??

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fiction @letter

Do you really wanna get married to anyone? I mean are you ready to get married

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MOHIT VERMA @mohit2022

Just say ur parents i need more time and tell ur bf u need to talk ur parents otherwise forgive me

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Anonymous

He says his parents will never oppose live marrige as they had love marriage too and he is the only child of the family . But tey are concerned about his career that’s why they are strict towards him . Fir the same reason he is afraid to talk to them right now as chances are they will beat or scold him. But once he get financially independent he will have enough courage that he can talk to his parents. And parents would listen to him more accepting .

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MOHIT VERMA @mohit2022

Then ask him how much time u need

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Anonymous

He says 4-5 months between pre and mains. He is working and studying really hard to get a job . But can’t to anything if the govt doesn’t release notification.

Rounak Jus @yaashu

Age?

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MOHIT VERMA @mohit2022

If he really loves u he need to talk to parents otherwise u can’t do anything

Akshi @akshhi

Just ask him one ques. What will he do if after his job his parens refuse him to marry u?
The ans will give u an idea that u should wait for him or not.

sid @sdt028

Correct, in many after getting the job person change there mind. Choose arrange marriage and blame parents

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Anonymous

He says they will never oppose hus marriage as he is the only child of the family but they are concerned about his career that’s why they strict towards him. And he is scared of his parents as he is not financially independent . But once he gets a job he will have enough courage to talk to them .

sid @sdt028

Two things are here, you have to be practical here. You need certain time from him and you need to convince your parents too. You can’t wait for him whole him. Also try to understand your parents point of view. if he could get a decent private job first that could be better.

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Anonymous

He said he is really studying hard and need 4-5 months between pre and mains and is really focussed on that. And don’t wanna divert his attention to find any private job at this moment.

sid @sdt028

Tell your parents then to give you atleast 1-2 year. Either you can reveal the truth or you can give any other reason. Otherwise it between they choose someone and you reveal at the end it would be humiliation for them also

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Anonymous

I don’t directly tell them about him. But I have refused multiple times to my mom but she says “aise kaise nhi kroge,aaj nhi kroge lekin 2 saal baad toh kroge,aur koi ladka pasand aa jaata hai to kya jaata hai krne me”

sid @sdt028

1 dedh saal toh nikal hi jayega ese hi, jabtak chije or clear ho jayegi. Bss yahi hai ki beech me koi esa rishta na aa jaye jo parents or aap khud refuse na kar pao

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Anonymous

We both are pretty sure about each other that we will marry eventually . But I just don’t waana get married now . Wo mere baare apne ghr me nhi bata skta mai apne ghr me uske baare nhi bta skti .
I think I should dump him .

Akshi @akshhi

What r u doing in ur studies? U don’t want to make ur carrier? If yes do ask ur parents give u time for making ur carrier just dont lie to them if u don’t wanna make ur carrer. If u also focus on ur career with giving ur bf some time which e wants. It will be easy and best way for both of u. Agr tb tk tumara bhi job lg jaye toh badiya h then u both will be happy as can get marry after that…dono ka career set. Shadi set. Or kya chahiye.

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Anonymous

If u had a little bit of feel of dumping him, never ever stay with him. U will not be the perfect person for him.

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Anonymous

He or me ?? Who is not the perfect person ?

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samar69 @arnav01

bina paiso ke zindagi nhi kat ti hai… madam

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Vivek Pandey @vic01

I always say this to every girl, you should become independent 1st before thinking about marriage or relationships, because that way you can find someone special who will respect you and love you out of feeling, not for the sake of families’ and society’s expectations. So i would say start making decisions for your life on your own and stop waiting on people and let others run your life. BECOME A DRIVER OF YOUT LIFE!

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Anonymous

I work. And he comes from a rich family but his parents are strict and want him well settled first. That’s why he is scared to talk to them now . But is sure they will not oppose him after getting a job for live marriage as his parents also had love marriage and he is the only child of the family that’s why they have never refused to any of his demands .

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Vivek Pandey @vic01

Well it’s your choice to wait on him, so accept it and be patient, maybe something positive will happen for you. But if you take charge and decide to move on, you can definitely make things happen for yourself. Either way you have to make a choice.

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Anonymous

His parents are strict and he says I am studying hard to get this job just give me 4-5 months time till the gov. releases notification and after getting a job he will talk to his parents and they will never oppose him as they had live marriage too and he is the only child of them that’s why they have never refused his demand and let him do whatever makes him happy . But they are strict towards relationship thing “no love before career thing”

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Vivek Pandey @vic01

That’s a right mindset, no relationship before having a stable career. I can’t argue with that. Maybe you can help him get the job soon or just move on, life is full of infinite possibilities, start thinking about your life individually, take decisions for you or maybe go for any other medium to find a guy to get married, if that’s your goal now, as of me i would never wait for someone, the love and attention should be mutual, if you are will to take a step forward, the guy must too. But in your case he isn’t taking the step. I believe it’s clear what you have to do… Or give me a call, I’ll make it more clear 9516938935

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Anonymous

He says he is sure he will marry me . And will move mountain for me.he just need time . But my parents are also forcing me .

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Vivek Pandey @vic01

As I said take the decision for your life. Don’t get pushed by your parents and then you can wait for him. Since you are earning, 1st talk to your parents about this situation of yours and if they don’t agree, then you find a place of your own and live independently… But be very sure of this guy and your relationship with him.

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Anonymous

I am pretty sure about the guy but I don’t know man I just don’t know I dont wanna get married right now . But my family is forcing me and he also want to get married but he is also stuck in family situation . What should I do .

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Ujjwal @ujjwals

Whats your age and how’s your family situation? If delaying the marrige affecting your family rigorously then go with family otherwise you can delay. And how long he’s preparing for govt job?

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Anonymous

He has just started this year . He is a bright student and is pretty confident that he will crack it from the mocks and all .

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Anonymous

Any government exam can be cleared in 2 to 3 years. He can choose lower job also. You should tell your parents that you need sometime.

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Anonymous

Girl…don’t talk abt dumping him straight away…give him time… and convince your parents that you have no intention to marry for 1 or 2 yrs… and by tht time you do smthg that will add up to ur carrier.

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