I am having a kind of panic attack and this is the problem I am facing from past 7 years ever since I got married. I have been judged at every point and my partner is unaware and ignorant about it. I have tried talking about it with my partner but he thinks its all rubbish and I have ego problems and all. I have never been into such situatiom before marriage but now every time when it comes to seeing my in-laws or going there and being answerable for every minute things drives me crazy and I get anxiety and panic attack. I try to make myself understand that I am strong enough but I have a fear that it will lead to a rift between me and my partner again which will affect my baby also. I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to face those people also as they always take away my peace and I get very stressed in their presence. Please help me.
hi there.
Dear Do you mean that Your husband doesn’t let you to do anything independently ?
If yes can I know what are the boundaries that he put?
Which kind of things you wanted to do independantly?
No I do have independence in what I do but when it comes to in laws, he will be silent and always listen to what they are saying about me and gets easily manipulated by them to make me feel that I am wrong and I have a problem etc.
If you are comfortable to … could you tell me in what kind of situations does he do like that
Do parents in law live in your home?
If you could tell a clear example dear
I am in the same situation since 5 years once you understand that your husband is ignorant about your self respect and is a suppressed child of his parents there’s only one thing that you can do bring him under your influence with love and patience. For some time you will have to stop taking out frustrations of your in laws in him and just casually tell him how was your day what you did what your mom in law said what your other in laws spoke to you but don’t tell all this in complaining tone try this for 2 3 months he will start figuring out that you are being tortured for no reason and one day he ll open his mouth in front of his family. If in 2 3 months things don’t change go for couple therapy to a good marriage counsellor follow “iWill” page on Facebook and download its app they have very good marriage counsellors online my best wishes to you dear :) one more important point I would like to tell you from my personal experience the more you will react on your husband due to your in laws behaviour the more the will enjoy it. Don’t ever show your in laws that they were able to trigger you and make you fight with your husband. Feel free to ask me anything anytime tc.
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