I am currently in a thinking about something and would like to share it with others and see what they think.
The situation is as follows:
There is a friend (let’s call them X) who is leaving and there are two friends (Y and Z) and we all belong to the same friend group.
X planned to do something with me before leaving. However, the day that we were supposed to hang out together, friends Y and Z started asking X to go out with them to a performance and X agreed and cancelled with me. Again, this was the day we were supposed to hang out and it was after a previous reschedule.
After what happened, I stopped hanging out with that group and speaking with them without any explanation because that really hurt me. Currently, whenever that group hangs out with the bigger friend group, I don’t go because I don’t want to speak with them, even though sometimes they invite me and that kinda makes me lonely now and I don’t know what to do. Am I overreacting to what happened? Wanna hear what you guys think.
You will find many people in life who would value you and make efforts to meet you in the middle. If the said X didn’t show corrective action to the canceled plan then they will not be accommodative in future either.
Am sorry to break this news but people have a list of priorities and going by your narrative, it seems like you are on the bottom of their list. Hang out with the bigger group and be cordial with these 3, you will see that it will be become less awkward to face them and you will not feel bothered of their presence but unless you see an effort from them to be sensitive towards you, please avoid getting hurt again. If they are really significant to you and this behavior of their’s is one-off then try articulating your feelings to them but if you believe that they are inconsiderate then please move on. After a decade, none of these would matter and am sure that life will bring you more attentive people into your life. Practice self-love till then.
I have the same problem if u get the solution please tell me also
Ig you should just focus on yourself… Like if they really considered you a close friend they wouldn’t have cancelled it twice…
Been there, done that…now i can’t attend college because i have to face them. Awkward and lonely.
