I am a hopeless romantic kinda guy !
I believe that I’ll meet someone and that’d be it and I did ! Well at least I thought I did.
She was someone I worked with. In fact we started the job together and became friends since the start. We then started doing everything together ( mostly job related) but she also started to tell me really personal things and I felt at home with her (you know that feeling when you feel at home ?? ). We used to talk for like 5-6 hrs daily on a 9 hr shift.
And I fell for her ! (This part is inexplicable though).
I started noticing everything about her, I started being a little flirty with her, I even started to remember little things which made her happy, I mean she herself told me that she hasn’t shared this much with anybody but me !! We would always wait for each other to wrap up our work and then we’d log off together and in case I sometimes lied so that she doesn’t has to wait she’d get annoyed.
And her voice, it’s like magic ✨
We talked for 2-3 hrs at a stretch and I never got bored !
And one day, by gathering all of the courage I could, I told her that I liked her and man !! she was not happy about it !!
She turned me down and that too brutally (well maybe it was just a little harsh … I don’t know !).
Since then its like I am stuck in that moment when she rejected me. Although she apologized a million times after that but it’s like I am at a standstill.
She now want us to remain friends and want things to go back the way they were and I am trying bcz I can’t resist talking to her bcz you cant just not talk to person who you talked with 5-6 hrs daily (sometimes 7 ). I like her voice, I like how I make her laugh !
I don’t know what to do !!
If being friends with your crush was this good. If the attraction dosent affect your state of mind and your self respect then I think it’s okay to be In love
I believe you should give her some space. It might not be true that she rejected you cause she didn’t like you… maybe she had other reasons or experiences in her life that she didn’t tell you about. Maybe again. Usually when a girl shows interests and still turns the other person down , it’s not because of attitude issues. Sometimes it’s really necessary for her. Maybe career is her priority or taking care of herself … idk but something is. So I’ll suggest you to give her space to figure things out and anyway you’re friends with her so support her decision and maybe later ask her why she did whateve she did?
All the best and wish you luck❤
I’m sorry you’ve to go through this. You must have heard the old proverb… love is a gamble. Well, you took your chance and poured your heart out just the way you should. But sometimes people we love, don’t love us back. Love comes in a huge package where there are lot of things, and when we see things lacking we know it’s not complete. Well, she’s really been a nice and true friend to you, instead of misleading you she’s been honest about here feelings, just like you were. I understand the most difficult part is unloving her… we don’t even know how does that happen, whether or not it happens… we don’t know. Letting go of someone we love is difficult, even if we loved them for a day. But try and keep yourself focused on work, try hanging out with groups instead of just two of you being together. And try and set healthy boundaries that will keep both of you away from the pain. Do not put yourself under pressure, don’t take the refusal as rejection, there’s so much more to it. I hope the kind of love you are looking for finds you, and stays. We are here for you. Sending love ❤️
Seems like you truely loved her! And I agree partly with others, one sided love is tough and even more hard when you know the other person doesn’t feel the same way. I think you should give each other some space and if that doesn’t work for you because I get it, it’s difficult to suddenly stop speaking to someone with whom you used to talk alot; if space doesn’t work you might wanna consider talking about it with her because I think if you guys are close, she might understand you and you both can remove the awkwardness, even a little bit!!
And yeah maybe there is some other reason behind her no so you know maybe have a conversation and try to reach common ground in a way that you might wanna still be good friends without it being awkward : )
I understand all that !! Its just it is tough !!
I understand man! And I’m sorry you have to feel this way. Oh and I’m sorry if anything that I said earlier was out of line. Give it time and you’ll feel better. Virtual hugs to you : )
