I am 14 years old. All my friends have phones. But my parents do not allow me; even though we have an extra phone at home and no one uses it. When I ask them why I can’t get this phone for myself, they always say because having a phone is not necessary for your age and it just wastes your time! The same is true for many other things like using social media, going out with my friends alone, and much more. They want me to spend all my time reading books, programming, and learning new things, or at least exercising. I personally like to learn new skills but I think that’s not all. I think sometimes I need to be a little naughty like my friends. How can I solve my problem with my parents?
Well you could ask them what you can do to get one. But you probably need to wait for them to be ready to give you a phone. They may not trust you atm so show them you are responsable enough for one.
How can I make them trust me?
Well be honest about stuff tell them about stuff that happens at school or about your friends just be close with them.
Simran @st1199
Hey!
They are not wrong in what they said. At this age, we tend to become addicted to phones, and after let’s suppose 2 months you would in a position that you can’t live without it. And they want to spare you from that which is important. You can’t have everything your friends have.
I don’t have all the liberties which my friends do, what should I do rather than accept and work as my parents say?
Going out with friends is not the same as having a phone, wrong comparison. Yes, SM is also addicted and we should prioritize the time limit of it. In this covid time especially its important to make time for everything rather than being into gadgets all the time (which is the case).
Ask them when is that they will you a permanent one or let have the spare one.
Simran @st1199
Because all the parents are not the same?
What if I say - Why you don’t have something which others have? (think of something which is true)
Similarly, everyone has a different kind of upbringing and different values for their child and we can respect them rather than question it every time and still have no luck.
I wasn’t allowed to go to my male friends’ birthday parties till I was in 12th. Now, I tell them I am going but till 12th standard, I used to ask if I can or not (which led to NO). With time things change. For some, it comes early and for others (you and me) later.
First Thank you for replying!
But why only me?
Why do my friends have so much freedom but me …?😣
I feel like they only limit me! They want me to be their perfect child and expect me to do just what they want me to do!
I don’t think my parents are the only parents who care about their child, so why aren’t my friends limited by their parents? does it mean that their parents don’t care about them ??? no I don’t think so😑
Simran @st1199
Every parent wants their child to be the best. You now are talking about them being negative towards you and other parents being positive.
That’s why I mentioned everyone has their own parenting style. You have to deal with them till the time you have an independent life. And honestly, you could get a phone with certain limitations and timings but not for a permanent basis at this age.
How they (your friends’ parents) bring up their child and how yours bring up are different and comparing isn’t going to do any good but disappointment which you already are.
