Hy how’s everyone doing?
I need some urgent suggestions from you guys.
It’s little long so bear with me. Thankyou.
So there is a guy he’s a good friend of mine or you can say he’s my best friend.
He became my friend because I friend zoned him bt he still has feelings for me. Now I too have feelings for him.
Bt the issue is he says " even if one lucky day you’ll start having feelings for me, I won’t reciprocate".
He thinks we are better off as best friends because he doesn’t want to lose me.
So my question is should I confess him and ruin everything or should I keep my feelings to myself and suffocate myself to death???
Either way it’s ‘aage kua peeche khai’.
Again this guy really helped me a lot, last month I lost my father to cancer and it was very hard time for me bt he was there for me. So he is kinda important to me.
And yes I had feelings for him before losing my father, so it’s not like now am in very vulnerable, desperate and lonely state that’s why I started having feelings for him.
I am losing my mind here.
Hi… I think you should follow your heart and go on and tell him… life’s too short to make decisions out of fear… sometimes two people like each other but the timing is not right…in your case you can make it right! just let him know…let it out…he confessed his feelings to you sometime back and you should do the same… then leave it upto him…if he accepts it’s great…even if he doesn’t I’m sure you guys will still remain best friends!.. Trust the timing of the universe and just go ahead. I hope this helps ❤️… I hope everything works out well for you❤️
Yeah it helped 🖤
And thankyou for your good wishes. The process is really hard right now and I really hope things to workout.
Simran @st1199
Hi!
Sorry for your loss, he is in the best place right now. 😊
So, he too confessed his feeling and still, you’re together so he should also act maturely and accept that and be friends if he doesn’t want anything more.
I think you should express what’s in your heart because he is your Best Friend and let it be normal and continue being friends. I suppose you’ll be not at peace till the time you confess. So, go ahead and if he reacts ajeeb tarah see to let him know and make him understand you were in his place at one time and you haven’t let ruin anything. 💜
First of all thankyou and yeah he’s in the better place now.
I really hope he would understand my feelings or atleast try to and ofcourse I’ll respect his decision.
I just need peace because my life is really messy right now.
Simran @st1199
He should and I hope he does. Go ahead and be free from all this. 😀
Girl dnt do it. I have have done it and i ruined everythng. N i regret it nw. Now it is really very awkward to talk to my bestie even. See in this kind of thing if somethng happens u loose both ur love n ur bestie. I jzz dnt want it to happen vth anyone
Thankyou for telling me the bitter side. And m sry it didn’t worked out for you.
First of all you need to calm down
I think u r in anxious state right now
Don’t haphazardly take any decisions
Think of confessing only when u are sure you will be together for life time
Because as for best friends are for forever
Once you are sorted with your feelings go for it, he will respect your decision .
Yeah you are right I am in anxious state of mind. I get anxious pretty easily and sometimes it gets very hard to breathe. I’ll try to sort this thing calmly.
It’s pretty simple actually, I think I understand that guys feelings, so from a guys perspective I will tell you the best course of action. Try moving closer to him, spend time with him , show interest in what he likes. Remember to not be too obvious. Sometimes, ask him in joke that if you confess then how he would react. If it is positive then grow more closer to him. Otherwise, make him more comfortable with you. What I am trying to say let him get the habit of you , being with you, and having you. Then one day ask him, if he said yes you would look for a boyfriend and he have to approve of guy you find or no then state the reason. If he hesitate while saying yes then tell him you like him and always have and can’t stand without him and express all you ever felt. And if he said no then according to me he should confess. And if he don’t then you should.
I really needed the closure from guys perspective, thanks a lot.
And I will definitely remember your words.
