How do I stop myself from being always available for the opposite person…
I sometimes feels ki mai hamesa available rhti hu why that is not with the opposite person… when i need them they aren’t…
Bahut bura lagta hai ye… i want to stop myself from being always there n stop expecting them to be there mere liye as well…
Indeed but you gotta change a lil for people who take you for granted because not everybody deserves a good heart.
Ye bahut baar lagta hai that i shouldn’t think of changing myself, but na har chize ka ek point hota hai… it’s like har baar mai hi kyu samjhu that i need them n there time…
Vo chize samne wala bhi toh samaj sakta hai na ki mujhe bhi unki jarurat hai…
And thank you for saying this that i m good towards ppl aajkal toh ye bhi sunne nai milta hai 🥲
Indulge yourself in something you like. It can as simple as playing mobile games or reading or watching series.
Bilkul maan nai lag rha kisi chiz mai… dikkat wahi aarhi hai… aur toh aur i m constantly thinking or you can say overthinking n being available for the ppl…
Lekin jb mai baat karna chahti toh it’s like occupied… bdme baat karte hai…
Naahh not really… kyuki it’s for everything and everyone…
Kabhi kabhi toh khud ko lagta hai mujhe aajkal that mai kitna hi jayda available hu logo ke liye n mere liye kyu nai koi itna…
Pta nai mai over expect kar rhi logo se ya i need to understand ki har baat sunne n samjhne ke liye log har baar sath nai hote…
I might have to calm down myself mentally bahut jayda aisi feeling aati hai
Learn to say no, and not to feel guilty when you say no, have some boundries in any relationship, your niceness and being there for other people should not make you exhausted and spoil your mental peace, prioritize yourself…if you want to say no to a situation, say it politely…if they are people who care for you they will understand, if they dont then no need to worry about people like that…
It’s like i m mentally exhausted n emotionally weak… i want ppl around me( my own ppl)…
Lekin shyd kisi ko samaj nai aarha wat i need n coming to saying no is something always a problem for me… koshish karti hu fir bhi… but bahut baar aise hota ki i put ppl sub chiz ke aagae… kahi na kahi ye galat bhi hai har chiz mai… mujhe ye chiz samjh nai aarhi that why I m not able to focus on myself jaise i use to be…
I m not able to figure out whats wrong with me… wherein i am not interested in doing anything… the things I use to enjy i kinda stopped it for some reason…
Your looking for validation from the people around you and you are scared that they might not like you if you say no, stop that, know your selfworth, even if you loose some people it will be the people who do not care for you, because someone who really understands you wont leave if you say no to something, and i really believe you dont need many many people around you always, having that one or two people who really understand you is just enough…
I m scared of loosing ppl alot… thts bothering all my other things… somewhere bahut hi jayda vo bhi
Just ignore and be yourself for 21 days and it will become a habit and like wise you will expect less from others and you won’t get hurt or used, even though something like that happens you won’t be giving a damn about it.
How do get that start… my determination towards things are least or like it’s in negative…
Sochti bahut kuch hu to come out of it lekin ho nai parha… basics se start karna hoga lagta hai waps mujhe…
Yeah just go with your pace. But be positive about it and start living for yourself for just once and you will cope up.
Hopefully I do come out n get back myself the way I was…
I m hating this version of mine like anything…
You will get over it.
