How can I overcome jealousy in my life… without saying that person directly that I am jealous of you. My Bf’s bestie, I know he only loves me, but I am so jealous of the best friend. She lives closer to his place and they both know how to play the guitar. Whenever we three sit together or meet, they vibe so much. I just feel like an outsider, or an intruder may be. I feel like I don’t fit between them. When they laugh share jokes and everything, it looks like they are a couple… I feel so jealous, sad and insecure about myself. Maybe because he doesn’t laugh with me the same way laughs with her. Or maybe because, I am really very afraid to lose him. That I am just out of my mind. Tell me if I am wrong, or pls help me if my emotions are valid. :( 😔😟
The trick to normalise jealousy is by imagining yourself to have the same life as that of the person you envy. Every life situation, Problems, disabilities, and even your bodies, thoughts, relationships are the same. Would you want to switch and be a clone of that? Only if the answer is yes then jealousy makes sense.
Your feeling is valid as we humans do feel jealous of others. Try to look it in a more positive way that u n his bestie are like two eyes to him. Maybe he is more actively engaged in fun when his bestie is around and unknowingly ignores u. U will always have a special place in his heart.
Kash @kashish2997
Try to sing whenever he plays guitar that way he’ll be fascinated by you or when his best friend plays guitar just ask your bf for dance and make it the moment so you’ll both feel boosted and close . Setting clarification and boundries are imp too .
Same happened with me! It was so tough! Because whenever you communicate anything related to it. He will feel suffocating about your insecurities. Try to spend time with him alone.
And trust me it’s normal. Many of my friends said that why feel insecure if you trust him! Why control him! But Jealousy is normal. Try to communicate with him more and more. And yes, you are special for him!
