Hi, this is the first time I’m using this site.
So, I have quite a few mental issues cause of my dad’s mother. She has been staying with us since my parents got married and has only been creating problems for us. My dad’s dad passed away when my dad was only 11 and he told my dad to promise him that he would always take good care of his mother( my dad’s mom) and that was the last promise he made to him. A few months back my grandmother told me that I would get raped if I kept wearing the clothes (shorts) that I wear. I was always very confident in the cloths that I wear but since that one statement I have lost quite a few of my confidence. That phase was the first time I actually felt what ‘uncomfortable in ur own skin’ really meant. I told my parents this and they went and talked with her. I am very very close with my parents and they are very open-minded. But the person I am most close to is my sister, for some people that might be the weirdest thing to hear, I know. We have an 8-year gap so I guess that sorta explains it. When I was a baby, she wouldn’t let anyone touch me without washing their hands. That sort off sums up our entire relationship. If it wasn’t for her I wouldn’t have been able to get through a lot of problems. A few days back my dad’s mother told her that she was only a burden to the family and nothing else. My sister cried for a really long time and one thing in the entire world that I really can’t see is her crying and its sorta a built-in reaction since childhood that if she is crying I would start crying too. My sister wasn’t exactly crying because of the statement but because of the fact that we have always been nice to our dad’s mom dispect all the things she’e done and this is what she says to us. My maternal grandparents are currently staying at our place. My dad said that if he takes any action now, everyone would just start blaming my maternal grandparents. He has spent his entire life with his mom and he keeps telling us that she was ten times worse in his childhood and he tells us that all these things would help us in our future life. My sister is gonna leave the house soon cause she will be shifting to another place to continue her higher studies. I’m scared to be alone. My dad’s mother is the most horrible person u could ever meet. She has never loved anyone, and I mean it when I say that. l was always told that grandparents are people who pamper their grandkids and would do anything to make them happy. But in my case she would do anything and would go to any heights to make our lives hell. I have always been taking the ‘high road’ as they say but it hasn’t been doing any good for me cause day by day I am being filled up with hate which I really don’t want. If u guys have any adivices please feel free to comment
Just read your write up and honestly all I wish right now is to be with you.
To be with you through all of this and stay with you till everything becomes alright.
Life’s hard sometimes you know. Like sucks. But we gotta keep practicing breathing when this happens.
Look mentality bohut vary karta hai.
Uske liye sirf ek hi advice dungi
Thoda nazar badlo aur thoda nazar andaz karo. For ur case, buss nazar andaz karo. Suno sabki sis, kar buss apni.
Have a good day!
Honestly, it feels really nice to know that people apart from my family are supporting me. Thank u so much.
Areyy we are a fam itself man.
We are a team
Always with you❤️
Thank u
I know what you’re going through and it’s really horrible. You and your family members don’t deserve this type of treatment. You deserve so much love. And please don’t let whatever your grandmother says get to your head, you should be proud of what you’re wearing and who you are, you will not get raped at any chance. You are safe. I have never really been close to any of my siblings cause i have always lived away from them cause there is a 9+ years gap. So I’ve been lonely since childhood ig? And looks like you’re gonna feel lonely too if your sister leaves. If you need someone to talk to and be there for you, i am here for that, so tell me if you wanna stay in Contact. But again, you deserve love.
You have no idea how much I have wanted to hear those words. Thank u so much. A small piece of advice from my side, l think u should start being close to ur siblings, cause from personal experience when u have ur sibling by ur side things just become more fun and memorable. Thanks again
Priyanka @jknm
i can totally relate to you . Few weeks back my Grandma made a visit and me and mum were terrified because she gives us tough time . My dad was so excited so he booked safari trip for us and ignoring the fact that dadi has mood swings and she can be very weird at times. so we had to spend night in cottages so definitely mum and papa would be staying in one and me and dadi in another . So she was knowing it all that she will stay with me but post dinner when everyone went to their room She literally asked me to sleep outside the cottage saying that she can not sleep with people around she wants to sleep alone in room . I was like okay there goes the mood swing and i was surprised how can someone be so rude and mean .
But i am also stubborn I am someone that be it whatever situation will find happiness so in this complete darkness away form the hustle bustle of the city i found so many glowing dragon flies that was my first time seeing them in abundance so literally my face glowed up I spent all my night watching those glowing dragon flies and few stars listening music obviously i did not sleep because i had my concern but it was one night that i will always remember not because of her rudeness but because of dragonflies.
And I did not hate her for this or even feel bad you know she is such a pain i accept but I mean why to hate someone she is just being herself mean and rude totally disconnected from the affection part when it comes to me and my mum but i have love for me i have love for people i care why to fill up my heart for someone who do not matter to me . I literally do not have anything for my her but i do not disrespect her or any person for them being themselves. And i do not let anyone tantrums and behaviour ruin my mood be it mine or my mothers :P. so you too must note that stay strong and do not bother yourself and this you will eventually learn :)
You’re really brave for being able to do those things. I am still trying to let her not affect me. Thank u so much for sharing this incident with me. Thank u for the support.
