Mx Shay @sxkurxchxn
Hiā¦ so I know I said everything is over but I have this group chat with Me, K and S
K started talking to me from there so I never got a chance to move on and I donāt want to ignore herā¦ I talk to her there nowā¦ But I donāt know what to doā¦ Should I let it goā¦ or still have hopeā¦?
Also, I made posters on how fishing nets are killing whalesā¦ and that the oceans could be empty in a few decades. I put them up in my society. I wanted to share them here but Idk how to put images :(
Comment if yāall want me to put all the info in a diff post or if you know how to add images
So basically I want to start trying to help world problems specially climate change because if we donāt help it in about 20 years cities could be deserts, the sea level would riseā¦ and ice from the Himalayas is also melting
since Iāve been working on all of this, I also started informing S and K about this on the group chat but the thing isā¦ K said Iāve āchangedā Idt Iāve changedā¦ Iāve just come to know about what world problems there are and want to help themā¦ and then she put a message saying āI liked the old you betterā but then deleted it
I donāt understandā¦ Why would someone not like that theyāre partner wants to help the world and make it a better placeā¦ is that so wrongā¦? Like did she like the bad girl side of me better?
She even asked
āWould you still like me if Iām racist?ā I said ānoā
āWould you like me if i was rude?ā I said ānoā
āWould you like me if I was selfish?ā I said ānoā againā¦
then later she kept thinking I was lying to her about somethingā¦ i forgot what- after that I said āNothing can change the way I feel about youā because sheās said it to me before-
then she said āMe being racist, rude and selfish canā like WHAT!?!?
thereās been other times when sheās asked me āHow long do you think this will last?ā
I said āI want it to last foreverā
she said āBut Iām sure thatās not possibleā and ofc that hurt meā¦
later she asked me the question again I said āNot that long because of our current situationā
she said ādonāt say that- you just killed me-ā like- what? So if you say stuff like this to me, itās fine but if i say it to you, itās not? I always forgive her for this kind of stuff because I love her and everybody makes mistakesā¦ but this is getting too much
Itās an emotional rollercoasterā¦ she hurts me, then makes me blush, then hurts me againā¦ I donāt like any of thisā¦ but I donāt wanna lose her eitherā¦
Anywaysā¦ I need to stop thinking about what she saidā¦
I just need somebody to tell me whether or not I should end thisā¦ whatever it isā¦
Abeer Setthi @pranum
Hi Buddy,
if a person is saying something about you then in that case there is a possibility
that it might be true i just think that all good you are doing maybe its making you ignore the bad in you, its not that i am saying you are bad , its just that there are flaws in every person and maybe you should try to make them right š
hope you understand
OK those are some really toxic double standards. Iām sorry if this scares you, but it sounds like your relationship might be getting worse than toxic and into mental/emotional abuse territory. I canāt be sure, Iām just a teen reading your comments, but that sounds really bad and it might be a good idea to get out of that relationship, even though it may hurt. Everyone makes mistakes and deserves a second chance, but can I ask you, how many chances have you given her already? Every time you forgive her or ignore a rude comment? Sometimes it hurts but you have to leave. I know a lot about this, the one relationship I had was abusive. Iām really sorry this happened to you, but this isnāt healthy. In a situation like this, if you are wondering if you should break up, you probably should. I know you love her, but for your own safety and happiness, I think you should let her go. It really seems best if you get out of there. Tell your parents or older siblings/friends/relatives if you can, they might be able to help. Also Iām sorry this is so long, and Iām really sorry all this has happened. Iām always here for you, always :)
Mx Shay @sxkurxchxn
Thanks a lot for the advice! and I think youāre rightā¦ but sheās stopped saying stuff like that
So idt I should break up with herā¦ if it happens again though I will
Thanks a ton once again! :)
Mx Shay @sxkurxchxn
You were right, It got extremely toxic
when i was breaking up with her she even said āFine, Iāll just got kill myself thenā
that is the BIGGEST red flag
Are you OK? Thatās a really really awful thing to go through. Iām here if you want to talk. :)