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Hi, I’m in love with my best friend but my best friend is already in a relationship for 2 years. My relationship with him is weird, its what i would usually do with people that I am in a romantic relationship with such as calling first thing in the morning, gaming all day and calling at night. I asked his why we call after a gaming session and its was because he likes it. (At this point i dont know what to think or do). We would literally spend every hour if we can on call (sometimes not even talking) or gaming. Sometimes when we game and I make him laugh, its like i fell for him over and over again. He is everything I have ever looked for in a guy :(.

I respect his relationship with his gf and I would try and move on, believe me I TRIED. Part of me wants to tell him how i really feel but im afraid of losing him because no one else. The other part just wants to shove all my feelings in a box and continue to be his forever ‘friend’. But his always asking me if im okay, im afraid that one day im going to snap and confess to him and just lose everything. I didn’t know who I would turn and talk about him. He is my best friend. I tell him almost everything.

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I was in a similar situation as you. I reached a point where I couldn’t keep this feelings inside me anymore and, even with the fear of losing her, I finally confessed my feelings. She was hesitant at first, but finally told me she wasn’t looking for a relationship now. Bad experiences with their previous relationships and also she is now in a delicate situation in her life.

After that we took some time before we played together again. Although I know that the relationship for the moment is not the same as before, I believe that we can continue to be together. I dont wanna lose her either.

I wont lie, I know that I still love her. Maybe in time I will learn to have her as a friend, or maybe not… and that scares me.

Tell him your feelings. I did it, and I confess that I almost lost her, but in the end I don’t regret it. It was a relief for me.

Love and peace.❤️

I love that you respect his relationship most people don’t
I would say just go with the flow… If you ever feel like you really need to tell him how you feel, you should go for it because it’s hard to keep your feelings bottled up inside and you shouldn’t do that… If he’s a good friend he will understand you probably give you some time alone since it might be a bit uncomfortable to just pretend like nothing happened and after you get that time off if he’s a real friend you guys could continue to be friends again! Have a nice day and I hope this helped!! <3

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Hi
This is really a very tricky situation
A situation full of dilemmas…
My heart goes out to you…
I know how painful it might be…
But dear I am very sorry if you find my words bitter
But see
The place where you are standing
U willnot be able to stay there too long…
The status quo situation
Where in you tell him nothing n you both continue to be bestfriends with romantic feelings in your heart cannot go on for too long…
This cannnot continue dear.
Because the longer it continues the more painful things will get
It will get more n more complex…
Dear these are matters of heart
No at all easy to deal…

Ok see calm urself completely.
He is your bestfriend.
You love him right…
With a very calm n cool mind think about one thing
Is he happy with his gf??
Are they having a perfect relation??
Do you feel his gf is right for him??
Do you think they will be happy together

Just try seeking answers from your heart for above questions
N if the answer is YES
You will have to counsel urself
You will have to overcome ur feelings for him …
You will have to do something very challenging
You will have to accept ur love to be one-sided
N just accept him as ur bestfriend
U will have to accept that someone else is your Mr Right…
This all will be really tough…
But it will make ur future peaceful.
Dear if possible just try to absorb ur mind in something
Divert mind
Stay engrossed
As far as possible for sometime stay a little away from him
Sort of distance urself…
Once you feel you are over him u can continue to be bestfriends…
Dear if he is happy with his girl
Then for all three of you the best thing would be for you to explain ur heart…
Try meeting new ppl
Make few friends…
Fulfill ur dreams etc etc…

N if you feel that he is not that happy with his girl…
Their relation isnot that good
Or that girl doesnot deserve your bestfriend
In that case he has every right to know how you feel for him
Maybe he is with wrong person…

So now u decide…
Good luck to you…
Stay very very strong…

For your well being pls sort this situation pls.

N i am very very sorry if you found my words inappropriate in anyway
The fact is i want you to be happy n peaceful
Just wishing the best for you …

God bless you…
Be brave

s

I’m the same situation, so I completely understand your feeling right now. It’s like your heart is going to explode every single time that it could ,and you feel burning inside over and over again when you know that you couldn’t tell how you feel. You are afraid of losing him but barely stay with this feeling anymore. It’s easy to say but hard to do. There was someone told me " if you are great friends together you are not gonna lose him." If you could barely carry on with the feeling. Tell him how you feel, confess it no matter what happen or you will regret it. Tho he would deny or not about the feeling, remember that how much you love him and want him in your life. Sometimes soulmate comes with bestfriend…

Anonymous

your are arealy good friend also , you have feeling for him but you respect his relationship also . its is very tough to see someone you like with another person i also have same condition but i escaped from that condition . for me its very difficult to face him , when ever i saw him with another person i felt like why not me , things got weired when he found that i had crush on him after that , i slowly end up of my friendship also