I unexpectedly fell in love with someone who is in love with someone else, her boyfriend. She told me she loves me too but she can’t break up with him yet due to his feeling of depression. I felt her love for him is still genuine. I am getting exhausted of waiting and being afraid of being the one left out everytime. It has been months but still I love her. Has anyone experienced this before and what did you do? I would listen to all comments, suggestions even judgements (but please be gentle). Thank you
Just gather up your feelings,go on a date with her and never look back again to her. Move on
No-one deserves to be left out in love there will be another girl who will give her all attention and presence to only you.
Thank you. We went out many times already but i couldn’t continue bringing it up when i see her teary eyes while saying just to give her time.
Ok so this coming from a girl who has had a few relationships in the past… believe me when I say this… she is playing you both. She is enjoying the attention that she gets from you and doesn’t want to let go of that neither does she want to let go of her existing boyfriend. Two guys wanting to be with her boosts her ego and everyone likes that extra attention… I understand that you don’t plan and fall in love… but you must always put your well being and happiness first. You can continue to be in love with her but without any expectations from her which isn’t an easy task. The more practical solution will be to distance yourself out from her and the current situation. Give yourself time to get over her cause it’s better to move on.
She told me she isn’t playing anyone of us and what she say seems truthful based on what i see on her emotions… but if what you say is true, then this is bad, i would feel worse than what i feel now.
Misha mishra @hope0986
I hope her feelings are sincere. And I am sure she isn’t some vamp out there to be sinister or something. But when you truly are in love… like madly in love there are never options. You just know you have to be with that one person. You don’t allow anything to come in between. So if it’s mutual to that extent go for it. But if you have any doubts in regards to her commitment or the situation in general I would suggest you rather not invest so much in it.
You deserve the best whether they are opportunities or love or friends… and only you can make the best of your life. What you choose will eventually be your life… so be wise dear boy.
Thank you for your wise words. I think she is sincere since I’ve known her 3 years before we developed this feelings. It’s just that I am at my wits end and keep getting hurt for the things I see and hear. I also needed someone to talk to and vent out. I am a bit relieved that people replied to my situation. I guess love hurts and the more you love, the more painful it gets when lost or there is a feeling of losing. Honestly, I also have some baggages so I don’t think I can really complain.