Hi!
I just would like to ask if anyone out there is feeling the same way I do or just anyone who would understand. I’m married and in a long distance relationship with the same person for a few months now. The problem I am having is that I think I am maybe falling for a co-worker whose been there for me. I don’t know if it is love or just simple longing for something that a long distance relationship lacks. I find it hard that while my wife is saying hurtful things to me, the other person consoles me. Another problem is that I can’t even tell my wife about it to solve the problem because I fear she’ll be upset and get angry which is more problematic I think.
Don’t fall in the trap, the infatuation will possibly lead to the destruction of your marriage. You have a wife and if you loved her before than chances are that you’re going through a stable phase where sparks die down a bit. So instead of pursuing the excitement and understanding of a new person, ask yourself…If I plan to be with the new person, is it guaranteed that in some time the same situation will not be with her as well.
I understand it is just a phase. I hope my loneliness ends soon. Thank you
Revati @revati_123
hey,
hope you and your family are doing well!
I think, in such a situation what happens is that the person you love is not around you, and the physical touch of that person means a lot! even if it is is holding hand, it has the power to give you the strength you need…and right now you are unable to experience that, and someone else is being available for you and that too more than expected.
you might be just getting used to being around your colleague. try staying away from this one for a few days, try reducing the contact and all…if it’s something that does not affect you much then you have your answer, my friend! you are not in love with her!
try to meet your wife, if possible (keeping the pandemic situation in mind)if you are around her and then you forget about your colleague then that very clearly means that this is just attraction!
you might be wanting to be with your wife but because of certain reasons, it mustn’t be possible for you to meet her and so you must have grown closer to your coworker. try to imagine a life with your colleague, will you be able to leave your current wife and love this one? will you be able to love her for the rest of your life? do you see yourself spending your entire life with her? try to think of all these things and you’ll have your answer.
hope this helps
lots of love, light, and strength to you!❤️✨
Yes thank you. You really helped my friend. I really can’t imagine anyone i would want to spend my life with other than my wife. I love her. I think this feeling is only temporary. There are just days that the pain of missing her is so much and overwhelming that I leaned on someone else who was physically present.
Revati @revati_123
I absolutely understand that in fact if you are feeling a certain way let your wife know about it…I mean if you miss her, tell her. if you are thinking about her, tell her. this will also keep the spark between you guys alive since you are in a long distance.
I am glad I could help you and that you finally got answers to all your questions! I am happy that you can see a clearer picture now!
all the best!
