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Hi,
I feel sad and down, probably because of pregnancy hormones. The first time I was pregnant, I shared news with close family members - No One was happy or excited except my dad-in-law. My husband sounded tense. My mom kept pushing me to get pregnant but when I broke news, she just handed the phone to my dad and went to do her chores.

Now with second pregnancy, it is the same. My husband keeps saying it will be hard and that we have to start from square one. He says he is happy but he just seems neutral about it. My mom pushed me this time too but she didnt care when I talked to her.

I know I should be thinking positive and not be bothered by people’s reaction. I try to do things to keep my mind off it like workout, take my son out and so. But I still get hurt. Now I am afraid to breaking news to anyone.

Please dont judge me after you read this. It is already too hard for me. Sometimes I think strangers are better friends.

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Hey, don’t worry, we won’t judge you. You’ve already entered motherhood, so, I guess it must be a very happy time for you. The thing is that, if you’re happy, then don’t care how the world thinks about it or how others react, just live your life to the fullest and keep your kids happy :)

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Cannot feel this part of woman, never been close to any female yet. Don’t suppress your feelings. Your husband is the one with whom you can share your feelings. Please share with him. From your husband’s POV even he may be scared to have another responsibility. Things are really getting expensive, earning money is a very tiring process. He will also need some support. You both need to understand each other and support each other.

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Hi. Please don’t be afraid of being judged. I am not judging you. I can understand how difficult all this is for you. I am really sorry for the way your mom and husband reacted after hearing your pregnancy news. I know that in our culture, parents always push their children into things. First education, then marriage and then having children. And I know how frustrating it can be. With all the hormonal changes in your body, it is normal to feel over the place. You don’t have to feel guilty about it and you do not have to be positive and happy all the time. You are a human and part of being a human is to feel different emotions. However, there is a little something I want to say to you. Firstly, do no let your mom or anyone tell you how to live your life or what to do in your life. Don’t let anyone push you into anything. It is your life and you must live it the way you want to. Don’t allow people to pressurise you into doing things. Secondly, you should have a heart to heart talk with your husband. You should tell him what you are going through. Communication is very important for any relationship. Thirdly, it is not easy to see your mother react like this about your pregnancy but what matters most is how the mother of the child feels. And I am sure that behind all this, there is a part of you that must be thrilled and excited for your new baby. Your baby deserves that. A mother’s love is the most important thing for a child. I am sure you can relate. So be happy that you are about to bring another life into this world. In next 9 months you will have a little one right next to you. You’ll have another soul to love unconditionally.

h

The news that God chose you for being a mother the second time, CONGRATULATIONS! You’re strong, and not alone. let others say or react however they wish, just take care of yourself and that little baby, it is a gift to you, cherish it and do what is best for it.