Hi!
I feel quite lonely in life. I don’t have a lot of friends and the ones that I have are really good. And I’m very grateful for them. But they themselves seem to have problems going on inside their lives. I listen to them and offer advice (if they ask and if I have any). But I don’t have anyone to go to. The people in my life that I love don’t seem to understand me. They do speak to me very disrespectfully and have no regard for my feelings. It is almost as if they don’t care if I am hurt by their words and actions. I sometimes wish that I could be like them and behave rudely with them as well. But then the thought itself feels like I’m committing a sin. The thing is my loved ones show arrogance towards me, but then after they realise that they were wrong, they will come and apologise. And I, being the soft stupid person I am, easily accept their apology, forgive and move on just for them to do the thing again. I feel as if their apology is never sincere. And that I’m taken for granted and that they don’t really need me in their lives. I feel so unwanted, little and lonely. I wish I could have someone whom I could lean on without the fear of being judged. I tried to share my feelings with my partner and was told that there are people who suffer more. I do acknowledge that a lot of people have it worse and my problems don’t even quality to be problems. But it wouldn’t hurt to have someone to talk to.
You can tell me I am all ears. If they are mistreating you then you don’t have to keep them in your life. Having them will only add to your stress and problems. Be with those people who understand or even try to understand you. Maybe have a talk with them and tell them about how you mistreated. If they are ready to change then it’s good and if not then ask them to leave or atleast try to change. Okay.
Hello!
Thank you for your kind words. Means a lot to me. They do say that they will change their behavior but never seem to. Out of love I can’t seem to cut people off. Moreover, I feel as if cut them off I will be even lonelier. I want to get out of this but I don’t know how to. I don’t want to hurt or upset anyone.
You don’t want to upset them but they upset you right? Here you need to keep yourself first. If they truly want to be with you they would’ve changed right?
I do agree. I think I need to develop thick skin.
Yes there you go. The people who are hurting you again and again even after knowing that you don’t like it will never change. Be thick skinned to such people. Know your worth girl you’ll find much better friends👍
Thank you for listening and responding 💓 God bless you! Have a good one!
Thanks for the wishes.