Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33
Hi. I am in class 12th. First of all I don’t know
how to tell a stranger about my thoughts but I thought maybe it might
be necessary. Of course these days, most people are
feeling lonely. I think I can handle loneliness but there is something
which is bothering me a lot. I want to study away from my parents as
they have no idea what I think, do or want to do. They practice over
parenting. And of course there is a pressure to bring good marks. They
don’t want to know what I want to do in my life, they just want to
hold onto their religious beliefs and social status. I literally have
to fake smile in front of them so they don’t say “You don’t talk to us
anymore”, “What happened now? You laugh with your friends. Why not
with us? (Of course in a taunting manner)”, etc and if I show some
anger and they get mad, they ruin all my time until I ask for their
forgiveness. After all this, I am pretty sure if they don’t get me admission in a college in a place away from them, I will commit suicide. I thought maybe I should see what you guys have got to say. Thanks for reading.
I get it, You have a different world view than your parents but the thing is you getting mad and them showing anger won’t do any good. You gotta sit with them and make them understand your condition, What you want and get some reasonable reason, Which you could sell to yourself as well as them.
Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33
My mom usually handles these kind of matters. And a sister of mine fell (most probably) in love with a guy belonging to a different religion. So she is scared that I will do this kind of thing too. Maybe I will because I don’t are who is from which religion but whether they are kind or not. So she is insecure about letting me go to a different city. And I can’t live with my family another 3 yrs. It will just be too much for me. Right now I am kind of going with the flow.
Then it’s most likely the urge to control the second child, They would get over it soon, when they realise there’s not much they could do.
Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33
Thanks for the reply. And yeah, I hope they get over it soon.
Shut up Yaar even me in same situation have to prepare for neet my parents behave the same ignore them ignoring is best and suicide don’t even think about if u fail u fail if I fail I fail let’s try next year what there might be people may insult but in future when u are in a good position people would come running to u
Once we develop our own mindset different from our parents, it becomes difficult to handle them. I don’t even know how to deal with them, my sister does it for me most of the times. And I have this problem of crying all the time when I am explaining myself or when I am angry, so it becomes difficult to make them understand. But I feel at the end of the day they will someday understand. Maybe not today not tomorrow but someday, we just have to be hopeful for that day, until then let’s try to make an effort to tell them how you feel or what you want. Ultimately they want you to be happy. They think that when they are not around we should be able to fend for ourselves, which we have to show to them and only then, they can think of letting their children go. For 5 years, I used to stay away from them, but then in lockdown I was with them for 8 months and I was so fed up. But then I also realised that they also start getting lonely there. Do not please go for the end of life option.
Jafar Abbas @jafarabbas33
I don’t know. My thoughts are pretty messed up😂 If things go my way, human race is going to face extinction😂 ( https://nowandme.com/i-think-almost-all-the-parents-are-selfish-CYLBmqZZu ) By the way thanks for your reply.
