Hi guys!!!..it will be long one hope u guys read it nd help me…me md my bestfrnd(boy) we were best frnds for 3 yrs nd live far due to our proffesions so we keep it in touch 24/7 through msgs nd videocalls. My frnds know that we are bestfrnds nd they started telling we both have feelings for each other. I know that he has feelings for me so thought y not give it a try. So after getting 6 mnths Intlo relationship we met nd had sex but I didnt find any intimacy with him while having it…I don’t wanna tell him that nd upset him so I continued being in relation may be I can change but later I started getting insecured with such talks nd acts so I told him to breakup as my parent won’t allow us . He became depressed lost his job nd even became psychic telling that he will tell my parents abt my physical relationship. So again I started relation with him hoping I can compromise. He stays in US nd I live in India so we won’t meet much. But when he talks abt sex or related to those I never felt anything nd juz responded with what makes him happy…his family nd frnds knows abt our relationship nd his family is putting us in pressure to marry. I also told my parents abt him that I’ll marry him but they are not okay with it. Even though I know I can convince them but now it’s not abt my parents but me… I don’t even feel like talking to him nd feeling very insecured to talk also… I don’t know how to tell him this I’m afraid he will again become depress3d bcoz of me nd become psychic. He even has anger issues I’m afraid how he will respond
P. S : he genuinely cares nd loves me
Being sexually compatible matters! Dont let something you’ve done previously act like a shekel. His mental health isn’t an excuse to destroy yours.
Thankyou so much for ur reply…but how do I break it to him?
If you haven’t said it out loud already, maybe try voicing it out through your actions. Block him. Severe your ties for good. As simple and yet powerful as that.
In reply…
Your family is not in favor of your decision. You have the support system you need to get out of it. He is not your responsibility.
As to the point of you breaking the news to him. You have known him for a while now… Listen to your gut when it feels it is the right time. Be kind to him during the process.
