Sharing Our Innermost Thoughts

Hi guys I need help and advice. I’m 31 yr.old female I met a guy on an app and we’ve have been talking for atleast 4 months already even though we haven’t seen each in person yet we became a couple official making it ldr. My birthday is coming up soon this nov.25 and before that he had plans on going here in the philippines. He is from korea. I told my family already that he plans on coming here with his friends. One of his friends is marrying a filipina but something bad happened so things were changed he’ll be coming alone in my country. He actually has a personality where if he is not sure with something and get frustrated if he realizes there’s no answer he would give up on that matter. His friends has told him ‘’ because this is his first time going alone in the phil how can you trust that woman (me) that things woud not turn bad things like that. I assured him that everything will be okay I’ll take full responsibility he is going here because he trust me at the same time he wants to see me those 2 reasons. This is his first ldr relationship all of his relationship was in korea and they last relationship he head lasted 5 years. As for me with this ldr its like for many years I’m now again experiencing being in a relationship. When he decided to book the ticket like a week before my birthday both of us talked about it together ex. Flight details. Here comes the problem: because my family doesn’t know him yet they changed their mind after finding out he’ll be the only one coming here in the philippines, I plan on celebrating my birthday with him in palawan it is far from my hometown that is why they are skeptical of the idea me meeting him because I’m a woman he’s a man and maybe the person irl and on the phone is different as they don’t know him yet. My family does not know that he os my bf that we became an official couple months before my birthday coming. ONE MISTAKE i probably made is i assumed that my family will still be okay with it, I just only told my family that he will come to the philippines alone after he booked the ticket. Most of my past relationship wherein my family knew at a certain extent about the guy I would still always ask permission on like where will we be going kinda like reporting a little bit. I know they are doing it all in concern and I understand that sentiment. because things have changed and it will only be 6 days before he arrived my family wants me to have the ticket rebooked to next year feb becausey big brother will be coming to the philippines for a vacation. because of how my family reacted he said that i should have discuss those things to him like still getting permission making sure my family had a go signal before us making a call/decision to book a ticket I really felt apologetic because i said i’ll take full resposibility that there will be no problem. I really didnt thought that my family reaction is this way. My family mentioned again if he could rebooked the ticket I just talked to him yesterday and I wasn’t able to say the rebooking, because i have alot of concerns things vecome this way he said that the trust i’m building is slowly breaking because I keep changing my mind due to my family responses I’m 31 he’s 38. I do not want to dissapoint my family, and him, i really want to see him on my birthday. I don’t know how to persuade my family. He understands that theyre doing it out of concern but at the same time the trip kinda becomes a burden it supposed to be fun, a couple spending time together on her birthday but because of how way things are happening you can’t just help but think those things I’m really guilty and apologetic, i don’t want to dissapoint my family and him he is a nice guy he said doing bad things in a different is a no no being in a position where all feels like forced is aldo wrong that he will also protect me not staying out late at night things like that i really want to see him though on my birthday only 6 days left but with my family rebooking decision i feel like meeting him woudn’t happen what should I do?? I don’t know what to do?? Any thoughts or advice is welcome thankyou for reading my post my mind is getting crazy because I don’t know what to do huhu