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Hi everyone,
I was in a relationship with a guy for more than 2yrs and it was all great. By the time he graduated and joined his job he started ignoring me, he use to get irritated, not answer my calls and this went for around 3 months and in this time i almost begged every friend of his to make him understand that his this kind of behavior hurts me…but after 3 months he said i cant continue i dont anyone. It became so hard for me to accept that he left me and i went into depression…i was unable to sleep, whenever i use to eat anything i use to vomit and this use to happen when ever i use to see his pics or remember why he did this and suffered a lot…then after 6-7 months he started blocked me from everywhere even though i did not text him from the day he said he cant continue…and later i came to know that he is back with her ex. Because of all this i have developed a fear … before doing anything i always fear what if this goes wrong …can say i think of the negative aspect first so much that because of that i dont try only anything …after 2 years i have met a very good guy its been a month now we committed but i fear same what if again i m left alone…or ditched and if this also dont work…i m finding it so hard to change my perspective …to make it a positive one. I hope someone can suggest me something or can help me in any way…
Thank you 🍃

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Anonymous

i myself ended my bonding with someone due to this insecurity, i can not let people hurt me again.

Anonymous

Even i face the same fear.

Anonymous

ustav, would you mind letting us both talk, since we are in same phase, I really appreciate your concern but please stay out.

thanks buddy.

Anonymous

so how are you coping with it?

gonna continue or take a break.

n

Thank you for calling him out

n

I am not whoever you were talking too, I just appreciated the gesture

Anonymous

all good @northstar?

are you the one who posted this.

i just wanted to get connected to the person who posted this, since i am not sure whats happening to me?

i am just ending bonding with everyone close to me, even with my potential partner.

n

See I am NOT the person you were talking to

but I have been there

I have severed my bonds with everyone,
I don’t make friends, I am somewhere overthinking things in my headband that somewhere lead to my breakup with the love of my life

So i can totally understand where you are coming from

n

Sorry for the confusion

Anonymous

and any solution to this particular phase?

Anonymous

Hey i m the one who posted this…i just want to change my approach to things…i feel once we r broken badly we also get too negative…and all i want to gain it back…cant leave the opportunities because of fear…that is wrong i feel…

n

Talk to your partner, share your insecurities with him so that he is also aware of your trigger points.

Talk with your partner because you need to be able to trust him

That’s the best way to start,

And if you are unsure about talking to him then just talk it out with someone

n

See this is for both of you,

I totally understand the fear/insecurities/concern

The solution is simply to talk it out, once you hear it coming from yourself it just seems so simple that you can handle it

And once you talk to someone you get to hear there point and that gives you a new perspective which makes it easier for you to move past it

Hope this helps

And feel free to reach out

u

Okay 1st appreciate if someone give effort for you… i don’t like you’re way i just reply on notification
2nd. I go though alot so i can help all of you but please be nice to others i don’t like a way you reply

Please we all are going through something bad

n

You are totally right

Things might seem scary and difficult but once you just sit down and have a talk with yourself
You will see that it was not hard

Anonymous

Yes… thanks…will talk to someone and work on my insecurities.

n

You just have to share and be comfortable and
Just receive some constructive criticism from them

It will go a long way !!
Best of luck

And feel free for anything

Anonymous

Thanks✨

Anonymous

Thanks everyone for your opinions and support :)
I really appreciate it

n

I hope you two recover from it and love yourself the most !!
You two don’t need anyone or anything else
And I hope we 3 get out of it.

Please feel free to ping, text or whatever if you ever feel low or just wanna talk.

Take care ❤ 🌘

Anonymous

sure, let us know how to reach out to you, if needed.

Anonymous

email works better.

n

shueab99@gmail.com
drop a mail

Anonymous

Hey girl✌️
Dw now you are good enough to understand person, not everyone boy is same so dont think about your past and enjoy your present,but yes take sometime to understand him and his intention as well.Dont be in hurry.

Anonymous

Yeah… thankyou

Anonymous

Yw.
If You wanna to talk then i am here for you

Anonymous

Thank you…

u

I don’t want to judge but i am feeling you ex is cheating on you
Most of time it happens but few time they get annoyed by our behaviour… so be best version of yourself and if someone left you so he is unlucky

Now about 2nd bf… 1st everyone show themselves good no matter how bad we are so no comments is he hoid or bad. … but ask yourself when you meet him are you feeling not well like we all have some needs like Emotional needs, psychological needs and physical needs

When girl have break up she easily go in relationship with person she is close then not because he is good enough just because you just want to escape from pain…

If dear it is true then how good he is this things always have negative impact

Say him you neef time let’s became friends again then heal then became self depend or don’t depend on others

Still you both love each other so you made right choice if not … then it break you more if you don’t take any step

Anonymous

Thanks for the suggestions…well healing is a lifetime process and i feel 2yrs mei i have done much healing…the problem is how to remove this fear of getting hurt and giving 💯% in relationship…and develop positive approach.

u

Can i help you in this… may be in few months

Anonymous

Ok

Anonymous

Sorry, but i m comfortable here itself…we can talk here.

u

Okay