Hi everyone ,
I want to know do people accept submissive males especially girls. I am 22 year old having a bit of feet fetish and inclination towards humiliation / pain. Only to the person I love. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years. But , she didn’t know that I have a submissive nature. I wanted to open up about it. Like everytime we had arguments I used to tell sorry or ask for forgiveness. Yet she never felt it. But now I tried to open up and she seemed to care less about it. She started treating my relationship as I was just there for her and started seeing other guys. When I ask her not to she is usually like your aren’t man enough. You will be okay to meet my new bf you can lick my foot before him. I am just lost I guess I ruined my relationship. I don’t know what to do next. Please share me is she right treating me that way. How would u treat me if I was your submissive bf or do I need medical help like people in my guy circle told me.
Hey ! Its okay to be who u are. You are not being treated right. You deserve better. ur girlfriend does not truly love you and she I not a well mannered person. Being submissive doesn’t mean u are not man enough. Don’t wait for others to approve u and ur traits. U acknowledge it first. Some women want 50/50 partner, some want a submissive partner and choices differ.You will definitely find someone who will love u and accept u for who you are. Pls move on from toxic ppl. True love always finds its way. Never hesitate to take professional help if u feel like u need it. Do more of what you love. Thats the best therapy you can give ur self
Hey friend!
There’s nothing wrong being submissive. It’s your nature and I don’t think that you should change yourself for someone else. If the other person really loves you then she will accept you as you are !
Your actions tells us that you really loved & cared for her so may be you had a fear of losing her so you always said sorry first even for silly mistakes.
If I’m right then your nature is such that you will never intentionally hurt anyone or try to gain advantage over anything. (you are a good person)
You were in relationship around 2 years. It’s enough time to know & understand your partner. So with a period of time your GF came to know that even if she said or did anything wrong you would not scold her. So even she was wrong sometimes you had forgiven / neglected her mistakes (yeah we do such thing when we are in love).
Over the time she realised that she doesn’t love you that was just a attraction for her so slowly she started ignoring you & now she got engaged with someone else.
But you Love her & she doesn’t.
What she said to you was wrong & I don’t think that you would have given her a strong verbal reply. But see now it has happened
for a healthy and long lasting relationship Love must be from both the sides and if not then it is good to end the relation as early as possible but with correct approach not as she did.
Yes currently your relationship is no more but look at the positive side of it. You would have to live with with someone who doesn’t love you (It’s kind of suffocating when a person is in relationship with someone she/he doesn’t love. You would have stayed happy but what about her?? coz you loved her but she didn’t)
So now don’t keep it in your mind just try to forget it and move on coz if you don’t then it will affect you in a negative way. But if next time she says something like this be ready to give a strong verbal reply! (this will help you by hurting yourself once again by her words)
Now you got time so make use of it. Focus on career, spend time on improving your skills and in the mean time you will meet the person who will love you as your are!
Be Happy…
Thank you guys. I confronted her told her how I felt. Well she shared her reasons of not being able to feel much for me as she doesn’t feel the manliness she needs in the relationship. She loves me for the person she loved not my submissive side though. She assured me that she wants to stay with me. As I told her I can stay without her. She wants to marry me and stay with me as a wife too. She loves the fact like we are like bestest friends but she doesn’t get the pleasure she is looking for. She asked me instead of ending the relationship if I was willing to be her as the dominant gf. She wants me be her permanent partner. But she wants to have her pleasure fulfilled. She asked me if I wanted to try cuckolding for once if not then end the relationship. I agreed for it. It was horrifing and exciting experience. She made me strip infront her new guy she is seeing. Made me watch them make love once in a while making me kiss feet / help in the process. She had my manhood n colar tied in the process. I sometimes felt like being a childhood bully. Yet, was happy to see her satisfied. Well I don’t know why but the degradation felt good. The other guy kept on laughing n making fun of me to which I noded in shame n respect. Realising this might be my future. I don’t know if I m doing the right thing or not but I guess my gf now has me as her slave. I don’t know will I regret doing this later. But I guess I might see my gf having fun having me as her permanent cuckold. And she has this recorded as well which makes me fear of leaving her anytime soon. Most of you might call me stupid. But I realised being a sub It didn’t bother much if she wanted to use me as even in the next relationship I would look for someone who would like to dominate ending up with almost similar results
I know most of you asked to move on but it wasn’t easy for me as our families are involved. What would you say ? Should I try being a cuckold too and keep myself serving her new guy guys.
In life there’s only ON or OFF if you create something else (as you did by accepting her being with other guy in-front of you) it will harm you in long term…
It’s difficult to move on but you must do what is right for you…
You got your whole life ahead, don’t waste it…
You are killing your Self-respect , with a period of time it will start killing you from inside…
she has been taken over by lust and now she is taking advantage of you & you are letting her take it… She knows that you will do nothing so she told you with ease & she got what she expected - Now it’s time to Do something Unexpected , give her a big shock by Ending the Relationship.
She thinks, what she is doing is Right (and there’s No-one to tell her that it’s Wrong),
So being a partner you must tell her - this is wrong and she must stop all this non-sense… you must tell her Boldly - & if she still thinks she’s right then you know what to do…
See she isn’t thinking of You, She is thinking of Herself only
(and when people are in love they think and care of their Partner’s happiness)
You want her to be in your life but her act shows Selfishness…
logically thinking there was no need to bring other guy in-between you 2.
you 2 could have solved this problem by another way but she chose the wrong way and you are supporting her !!!
don’t worry about the video she can’t do anything coz if she does then she will have to face the Law & she is sane enough to know this (Blackmailing). don’t worry - always keep backup of your conversation Law is with you my friend Don’t be afraid to Stand for yourself , to stand for your right…
this is just starting my friend if you continue this then be ready to face the worst…
Stand for yourself - tell her you will not tolerate her wrong behavior - Tell her to Leave the other guy if she doesn’t then End this relationship.
Friend always keep in mind - Love is more powerful than Lust
if her Lust is more powerful then it’s clear that she Doesn’t love you.
she just wants to marry you for social status or what your families will think etc…
And listen, Not every girl is same. you can’t say that in your next relationship the result will be same… There are unlimited possibilities & there’s a less chance to be the same situation…
It’ll be very hard/painful to Move on for the few months but you must do what’s right for you and not what she wants!!! - Keep in mind Time heals everything - here Right Action is Necessary.
Every action has it’s reaction - So with your current action you also know what’s coming for you in the future as a reaction - May be you’ll have to give your name to someone’s child, yes she is capable of this… So
Be a human - Don’t become anyone’s emotional or physical slave…
You have a lack of hope… just close your eyes and try to see your future - You are with a girl , she accepts you as you are , she loves you as much as you do , you both are happy & taking care of each others, and someday you pass by your Ex (current GF) - you see her with some other guy and then you think Thank god I ended that relationship and act as you didn’t recognised her & pass by…….
Just imagine my friend this is also possible …
Please don’t end all your future possibilities by Not Moving on…
My Strong Recommendation is Please End this Relationship coz inside you aren’t happy (now you have time to END it but after marriage you will be her prisoner for lifetime) …
She is not the only girl on this Planet - please come to your senses…
Love can happen after marriage also so don’t run after Love Marriage - you can be happy in arrange marriage also…
You will surely get a perfect life partner - just don’t be in a hurry…
Switch off your mobile for 1 day , Go outside where you will be alone and Think for yourself and make a Right Decision (End Relationship) -
{And if you do end this relationship I’ll guide you through the further process to cope with your pain & move on if you want}
After all You are the Creator of your Life - Don’t Ruin it…
You are Creating your Future by your Actions in Present - Create your Future Wisely…
All the Best Bro…
