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Oorvashi @osho

Hi, do anyone of you feeling irritated when your husband or wife praise or show more affectionate to their siblings?

Love marriages after 5years long distance relationship.
Married on Feb 2022 and I’m staying with in laws.

I planned to apply oversea job since we still young and no child yet. Not even apply overseas job but my husband said no, don’t find one because he want to take care his sister and can’t move very far from his family!!!

I’m (27yo) feels that my husband(31yo, first child) loves and care his sister (20yo, last child) more than me. At least my SIL have both parents alive and 2 brothers to take care of her!

I have left my family, my hometown, my friends, my car and my freedom for my husband. The only person I depend on, love, trust is my husband.

I really feels jealous when I see their brother-sister bonding. I feels like I’m not important to anyone! I share everything including myself to my husband but still he will choose his sister/family!

I have to wake up early, I help my MIL to clean house, bath then breakfast start WFH then 6pm bath, pray and eat dinner and back to WFH then sleep! This is my daily life routine here! I don’t just a routine when I was single staying my parents!

Sometimes I can’t tolerate his sister’s attitude-wake up late, sleep late, not pickup rubbish, not clearing rubbish bin, why can’t she don’t simple housework.

I have sisters and no brothers but IF there is any situation comes to choose between sister or husband, for sure I choose my HUSBAND!

Just need a place to vent all this! Take care 🥲

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Anonymous

Its gonna be better dear… stay strong

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Anonymous

I am not married so I cant give you an advice here but ik for a fact that your husband has a parental love for your SIL which is the most natural thing there is. Issue is you love only your husband and not the family that comes with him. When we go into a family we are a part of it so if you think of her as one of your own …it wont feel that bad. And yeah, you do have a right to have your dreams but you have to rationally explain your spouse about it. The way you portray things feels like you arent very accepting and so is your husband. You need to talk! You need to tell him that you are going to have a life of your own and he might consider your points. But be rational.

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Oorvashi @osho

I logout from wfh and went for my break just now, saw empty yogurt cup with a spoon in kitchen table… I took it and throw into rubbish bin then i noticed the Rubbish bin full so I went out and throw it. My SIL was at hall but she didn’t do this… I was the child in my family too, who was cherish, adamant. Now I feels like a freelance maid, How to feels them as my family 😮‍💨😪

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Oorvashi @osho

Anyway thank you for reading my post. Happy to know your opinion

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Anonymous

Life at in laws is hard to adjust. Its also one of my biggest fears. 😢

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Anonymous

You seem to have a lot of issues in your life. I saw the other posts too. But think that it is only a passing phase. Nothing is permanent and what you want in life you will get it if you plan accordingly. Everything is possible

Sisyphus @sisyphus

You should talk to your husband. It’s always better to move out after marriage, so that you guys have a life of your own. Talk to him. Make him understand. Try not to make him feel like he is leaving his family behind.

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