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Hey people! Hope you guys have been doing well! Virtual hugs to everyone for small victories and losses. Tomorrow is a new day! Keep at it!

So all my fellow #NowMEians, especially those who are going to marry soon.
Firstly! Congratulation on finding that special someone! ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜
I am sure you all are ready to take that next big step in your lives. To build a new life together. To help each other grow as a person. Iโ€™m really happy for you people!!

B U T ! ! !

Have you both talked it out with each other? Like are both your goals same? Are you doing it because you want to? Or because you have to? You might have gotten enough advice on how Marriage is as an institution right?

Marriage is a bond. You need to build it. It takes time. The road is rough. For some, more than the others. It needs dedication, loyalty, understanding, compromise and being supportive of each other!

Marriage is a hotpot. You have to put in your salt, sugar and spice. You both have to. It is your hotpot. Donโ€™t let others cook that for you! We know the saying, โ€œtoo many cooks, spoil the broth!โ€

Marriage is like alcohol. It starts out great! Everyone is having a good time! But You cannot get drunk and do what you please, and later blame that on being married. Marriage is like a fine wine, that deserves to be aged with time. And like all alcohols, you also need to know when to let go of the bottle.

Marriage is like a train. You will have several new people in both your lives. Some unruly passengers, included. You have to compartmentalize. You have to know when to separate them from the engine. There will be stops or points in time, where some people will have to be let go. Their role in your lives is/was done.

I can give you other similarities but that is not the point.
What Iโ€™m saying is, when two people decide to spend the rest of their lives together, it has to be mutual! If you have a past and it is not letting you move on, resolve it first. The other person doesnโ€™t deserve to carry that baggage! They might offer you their support, but it should be your responsibility to deal with it. To the best of your abilities.
Remember, its not just you. Its the both of you.

Thanks for reading till the end. And I wish you both a very happy married life! Cheers! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

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Anonymous โ€ข

Are u married??

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Haha no Iโ€™m not. Havenโ€™t found my special someone, yet.

Anonymous โ€ข

Hahaโ€ฆ May u get that special someone soonโ€ฆ Searching for the person?

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Thanks. And yeah, the journey is long.