Hey
My ex just came back into my life after 3 months
He treated me like some shit with his words while i was leaving, he’s a heart patient and now he is suicidal, idk what to do or how to help him out he just don’t want to live anymore.
Smoking and not talking to anyone, though he came to me to say sorry but I’m and was emotionally attached to him.
I love him still and i don’t want him to loose hope but he’s frustrated all time, I’m talking to him on a daily basis but nothing is working, please help i don’t wanna loose him, he’s been holding his pain from sometime he struggled from this around many years, it’s not his fault though, people left him, nobody cared about him, i don’t know why i am concerned, I’m stupid in love and can’t see him die 😢 please help.
bhavya @bhavya2urhelp
Hey, I understand how you feel. It’s okay to be concerned. Even if he was not your ex, you are trying to help someone who is surely going through the toughest period in their life. I know how exhausting it is, trying each day to help them but seeing no progress. The fear deep down in heart that things can go wrong if he is not checked upon regularly. A feeling that you are not able to do anything and feeling helpless.
I don’t know, your feelings look a bit confusing to me, and maybe to yourself too.
I’d say see these two things differently, your ex and his condition as a human being.
Clear your feelings out for yourself, how do you see your future with him, where are you going with it, (without considering his condition at all)
Hope you will sort it out, because it is only you who decide that.
Now as a person, he had a significant role in your past, you still must be having some feelings for him, as it was very recent. It is pretty normal and acceptable.
If you feel like helping him, that is so nice of you.
It is completely fine and normal that you feel like helping him.
Do your best what you can do, but as a personal experience, I would recommend don’t exhaust yourself. Pursue him to seek medical help if you can.
Again, you have to know what you can change and what you cannot.
Don’t put an unnecessary burden on yourself.
Decisions will be tough, but you will perceiver through it and your friend too.
If you feel like discussing more, feel free to message. :)
Take care
Hey thanks for this message.
I’m really glad.
Seeking medical help, he has done already nothing is working out,
I met him yesterday, made him feel special, cared and loved and i guess he’s feeling good now but when i came back he was suddenly feeling alone again, i mean i can’t be with him 24*7 right.
Idk after meeting him I’m confused am i still in love with him, it’s a yes but I don’t want to be mentally ill by thinking of him for 22 hrs straight so I’ve told him that i love him but we both can’t stay in a relationship plus i don’t want any commitment because it’s just a tag and he didn’t even said that he too love me, he know somewhere what would happen after his operation, he don’t want to lead me on, but i want him by my side and it’s scary not to see him in my future.
I just don’t have words describing what I’m going through right now but I’m making him smile that’s what keeping my heart completely fine.
bhavya @bhavya2urhelp
I can completely understand. At times we have to make difficult choices, I don’t know what is right for you. Listen to your heart.
Don’t over-drain yourself. There is suffering all over the place. Everyone has their bad days. Our sufferings make us who we are. Hold tight this will get better, I don’t know when, but they will.
And yes, you are a great human being, who is still standing to help when you can just leave and live.
More power to you :). take care :)
Thank you so much, you gave me strength ❤
