Hey guys.
Today, I am feeling very bad. For days, months, I was alreadry feeling bad but today I just realized how bad my mental health is. I am a second-year student at a university in Pairs and I do not have many friends. Thus, I moved to Paris without knowing anyone.
My first year was horrible socially speaking. I only got 2-3 friends but not enough to make me feel that I fit in this university. Indeed, I feel like I am not in my place right now. I feel that everyone to not want to talk to me, to stay with me. The reason ? Idk. But in my head I say that it is because I’m not like them (coming from a wealthy family, not beautiful, not dressed well). I started to overthink about my attitude, the way I dress, the way I talk,etc.
Today after one year of no physical school, it was my first day meeting my classmates. I hopes it would be amazaing, BUT not at all. Everyone is ignoring me (idk the reasons). This hurts quite a lot. I’m so invisible. My head is explosing…
Don’t know how to deal with that… Is it ok? Will I find the real people one day? Am I worth it?
Everytime I want ot make a move toward someone, I fail. I gave up and I know I should’nt but there is no way for the moment.
I know I should continue to make efforts, I should talk to people. But the voici inside me say that I don’t worth it at all.
Hi
First of all, I am sorry that you feel this way. But I do think that you are kind of overthinking your situation.
Your life isn’t measured by how many friends you have, it is measured by what you are doing with your life and for your career.
And the thing you are afraid of, that people are pushing themselves away from you is just crap. You feel that because you think that people should like you in one go. But they don’t.
you have to show them your true self and what you are capable of. They will come and talk to you and admire you for how you work at college and what you do for yourself and how fun you actually can be.
You need to stop judging yourself for all the little things, mate!
It’s not gonna be easy to make friends, but you know you gotta try and be yourself around them.
I hope you meet the best version of yourself in college!!
Hi. I am really sorry for the way people have been acting around you. I know it must be very difficult to not have friends in college or been treated like you are invisible. People who are naive and shallow only judge someone based on his or her wealth or looks. And to be honest, you don’t need such people in your life. Good people do not make someone feel inferior. I don’t know your classmates personally but if they treat you like shit, they probably do not deserve your friendship. You need to stop making yourself feel inferior than others and you need to stop criticising yourself. Instead of self loathing, you should try to focus on your studies and performing well in class. I suppose there must be a few other students who friendly and kind. Maybe try to step out of your comfort zone and take initiative and talk with them. If they don’t respond well then try not to take it personally. People’s behaviour is a reflection of themselves, not you.
Are you an introvert by nature?
