Hey guys, I would really like you all give my paragraph a reading and give your opinion to help me as maybe I am a bit confused I might have done something wrong. Also, I am looking forward to make some really good friends as well.
So, I had a best friend whose been in my life for the past 17 years. We had known each other since kinder-garden. We have had many differences in our opinions, crazy fights but we survived each and everything. We are turning 20 this year but since last year, she had judged my choices and had framed a wrong opinion about me, thinking of me as a slut and speaking wrong things about my character. Ik she hasn’t had a boyfriend and was not comfortable with the fact of me having one, I had sorted it out apologised for my behavioural changes and for giving him the priority over her. Fights with her affect me because I get anxiety attacks. So since then I always used to apologise to her whenever we had a difference of opinion. I used to listen her ill-treating me. But one fine day, she accused me for not having shared my life details about my family when she already knew about the trouble I was in. I told her if she knew she could have called and helped me and should have not waited for the fact of me telling her everything. I got so angry and for the first time I opened up and vented out everything that was In my mind, I called her a loser and said that she had a miserable life and will have no one around as nobody’s gonna wait around to please her. I feel guilty and feel that I have ruined my friendship but on the contrary, I also feel that she should know she can’t mistreat me.
Ashish Sharma @thatsmeashi...
Hey there!
Everything seem fine to me in your life.
Its really ok to have fights, vent out everything on your friends, everything is just ok. But the only thing is don’t stop getting back to the normal after the fights or anything.
You both know each other since a long time so it will be really easy to just reach back to the normal. Star making the small steps, these small efforts always make the difference.
And about the mistreating thing, talk to her about it, tell her you don’t like what she tell or does.
If hope things get sorted between you guys.
I tried to talk to her and she told me to get lost and fuck out of her life:)
So I guess your advice was completely wrong. I lost my self respect as well. I stood up for myself just once in my life and I get treated like shit
Ashish Sharma @thatsmeashi...
No you have not lost your self respect buddy.
She just lost a great friend who tried to sort things out. And thats great actually.
Let me tell you this, EVERYTHING GETS UPDATED, she might be with someone who is feeding wrong.
So its not you who is wrong, its her.
I have lost a lot a friends, and also i have many who were used to be great friends when we were in school, but now i am all alone and broken.
Again that’s ok.
Soon you will learn about this too. Till then keep cheering up stay focused on more of your priorities.
Thanks a ton for your help, you are a gem. Stay connected:)
Ashish Sharma @thatsmeashi...
Always
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Being open about how u feel is a good thing. U should talk to her about it. I think if she is still insecure make her understand it. Insecurity leads no where. Also communication leads to betterment.
I tired and she told me to leave her life when I stood up for myself once.
Then it’s better na. It will hurt for sometime but don’t realise that she has chosen herself over it friendship? And u always chose her over u. Try again if possible but lastly self respect is more important.
