I am FWB with this guy from the last 3 months. We agreed on the terms that we would enjoy whatever we have and not fall in love. Over time I feel some sort of attachment towards him(not boyfriend vibes). He stays over at my place during the weekends, we cook together, hang out together. Recently, I got to know that he is seeing someone ( which is completely ok) but I do get jealous at time when he flirts with other girls. We share a very good friendship bond apart from the benefits side. Now, I feel like telling him what I’m feeling for him…but I’m afraid that this would affect our friendship. Suggestions please!!
Should I go ahead with this?
Okay…will try to do it now. Wish me luck, it’s making me anxious.
I think he’s not interested in you given the fact that he sees other girls. I would say you stop being FWB with him, look for someone else to date and just be friends with him.
Yes, I agree he does see other girls. Even I do not want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. I had brought up this discussion once with him, that if he starts seeing someone we should cut aside the benefits part and just be friends. But this feeling, I feel so jealous…makes me anxious. He was about to come over today, but I told him not to… because after he comes over he does talk to that other girl also sometimes, somedays I don’t even bother, but somedays it kills me. I don’t know should I tell him all this or should I keep everything to myself.
You should tell him if he’s seeing other girls cut the benefits part and stay friends. It’s gonna be difficult for you but think it as a long term investment in your life where you would bare extra trouble now so it won’t be troublesome later. All the best and stay strong.
You have got solutions regarding your problem I think so looking at the comments. I wanted toh know how do you get a FWB means how to approach and all at can you please tell me…?
With all due respect, this platform isn’t for what you just asked. Please control your urge to ask such questions and think twice before typing them.
Going through the similar situation. I am the person who barely gets jealous but when I see pictures of my potential FWB with his very close female friends from his university and the thought about he hookups with other girls makes me super jealous. He is a guy with whom any girl would like to be with. He has been my crush for 5 years, romantic relationship is impossible between us because of several reasons but I get anxious, jealous and insecure when I get to know that there are other girls close to him than me.
Yes exactly the same. Yesterday night I told him what I felt about him. And obviously it didn’t go well. I don’t know what to do further, there is an awkwardness between us now. We surely will have to communicate further but I don’t know when and how. As of now I don’t feeling like moving out of my house, and I am sleeping for most of the time.
I can totally understand your situation. Please take care of yourself. I know it is tough for you. Let yourself feel the emotions, don’t suppress them. I am here for you to listen to you. Please know that you’re not alone, I am going the same situation and I want to help you. When you start to overthink and your emotions get everywhere just breathe and write them down. You feel like sleeping, sleep. If you like going to nature, then do it. Do whatever you feel like doing just dont harm yourself mentally and physically.
You’re so brave to confess your true feelings. It’s great that you didn’t bottle them up. Don’t regret the outcomes. There is a possibility that everything can work out in your favour. And even if they dont, remember you’re not responsible for behaviour, thought processes and actions. You’re amazing just the way you and dont feel that you lack in something. You are stunning than you think. When I got a rejection I self doubted and tried changing my entire self then I realised that I am so much more than he thinks of me. Don’t compare yourself to other girls. If you’re meant and born to be yourself and be unique, nothing has to be done but embrace your uniqueness. I am sorry if I have said something that might have hurt you. I don’t intend to do it. Because of overthinking and emotions, I have got myself into trouble and I dont want that to happen in your case. Everything will be okay, have faith❤
Needed this so bad. Made my day. Thank you for so much love.
More love and power to you too. It just feels so good when you know someone is hearing you out without any judgements.
Yes, I will. No problem. You’re safe here❤