Hey all,
I am very sad and anxious. Yesterday night I cut off ties with a guy with whom I had been on talking terms since a month. It happened because i was not liking his behavior, I politely told him to stop talking to me, but he did not understand, I had to block him. he reached me through a new id and he kept on pestering me to stay with him, again and again telling me that he wants to be with me, he will keep me happy, he would take care of me etc etc, he was telling me “mujhe chod ke mat jao” and he went on and on for 2-4hours like this, till I was irritated and frustrated with his texts. He went on to questioning me if I am in love with my boss, he is nobody to ask me personal questions and this question was a personal attack . He had never done any ideological discussions with me, I saw his Facebook just today, it’s filled with misogynist and antifeminist and vulgar posts. I strongly felt that I need to throw him off my life, I blocked him again, but somehow I am feeling guilty because of the emotional thing that he was exhibiting. He was crying, worried and asking me not to leave. I know what I did was correct but then I also feel a little guilty about putting someone into such a emotional state. What if he gets so disturbed that he can’t move on, what if he loses his daily energy and gets depressed, there is a chain of thoughts like this in my mind. What shall I do to relieve myself, I am very anxious.
I understand what you’re going through, I’ve been through the same, but here’s the thing, I know it’s difficult but if you didn’t do that, he will keep doing this to you until to the point that he would start giving you suicide threats, he will become so much dependent on you emotionally that it would have been much worse than this, and then at that point it would have been so much more difficult than it is now, you did the right thing trust me, you did something for your mental health and peace, which is way more important than his right now because you’re the one who should be your first priority after all there’s no one other than you who spends more time with you than you, so it’s always right to limit some bonds, to set some boundaries , it’s the right thing and you should never feel guilty about it, don’t over think he’ll be fine, he’ll learn to know his life, and it’s better this way, so do not feel guilty about it :)
You’ve all the rights to do which you feel is right for you and your mental health :)
You are very right. Thank you for making me understand that what I did wasn’t Wrong. It took me a while to calm down, but I am fine now
Take good care of yourself and smile more often :)
You don’t have to feel guilty. The guy was harassing you and then manipulating you emotionally into making contact with him again. It was the right move to block him. The crying and begging seems like manipulation tactics. Even if not, you do not have an obligation to stay in touch with someone who hurt you
He literally left no chance unused to manipulate, intimate and harass me. Thanks for supporting me. I won’t back off from my decision.
