Here I am sharing my story where i feel confused and guiltyโฆ I have been in relationship with my bf for about more than a year nowโฆ And I just dont understand what exactly my feelings are for him nowโฆ I used to have a crush on him for a long time and then finally in relationship I was very happy at startโฆ Ready to do anything for himโฆ But slowly it started feeling too restricted too controllingโฆ I mean i do not know if its normal or not like i dint have much of experience in relationships and he had a lot of gfs which left him or cheated on him n made him heartbrokenโฆhonestly his insecurities have increased bcoz of all those breakups n constantly thought that i would leave him but now i really feel like i should bcoz i am not what he expects me to beโฆ I used to do it earlier as i had no idea about relationships n wanted it to work but slowly my happiness started diminishing and urge to leave n be free increased. Basically i can just break up with him but for some reason its too cold hearted to do soโฆ I dont want to break his heart at all he is already hurt n u dont want to hurt him anymore but my intuition tells me that we aint gonna last long too much of fights n toxicity n apparently we gonna leave each other but if i leave him now i m afraid he might never belive in love n would be shattered into pieces so i am just trying ti hold on to it but i just cant be the same person I was beforeโฆ I cnt be exciting anymore talking to him bcoz i think i might lead him to think all is fine when its notโฆ I want him to realise that we both arenโt for each otherโฆ But somehow in that process i am rejecting him that hurts himโฆI know that i am bad person here i shouldnโt have made promises or anything too early but right now i have no idea what to doโฆ I really feel like a dead end and instead of breaking up iโd rather let this go the way it is n maybe even compromise in the end n stay with him even if that makes him happy
Heyaa I donโt know your name or nothing but for your self and for your happiness you have to do something, otherwise ur not more than a emotionless creature,go with him on a date,and just tell him it is not working out,one bold step n youโll be free
I did tell him when we fought, i told him this is toxic aint right i m just hurting you, but later he just texted n it was really begging ti get back with him i dont want him to do that? I made him beg fir me that was hurting i dropped the idea after that, that was just too painful to see him like that
I knowโฆ I did n i mean its like things dont come to a conclusion unless one gives up he goes like why this nowโฆ It wasnโt there in the pastโฆ N den he goes like yeah i m the right guy for you no wonder why any ofbthem dint workโฆ The topic just gets lost in all this conversation n theres a whole new issue arising
Ok so I am a person who is in a relationship since last 3 years and yes your past does affect your present โฆif his past is with other girls โฆhis present with you will be affected โฆbut he should understand that he should not be punishing you for the mistakes the others did โฆso go confront him โฆtell him this is what he is doing to you โฆand tell him you donโt want to leave him โฆbut the same time canโt handle it if he keeps punishing you for others mistakes โฆcommunication works โฆtrust me
Okayyyyy! Thanksss I will have a talk! Thanks alot
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