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Hello. My fellow LGBTQ+ community members i just want to say that you are VALID. LOVED. RESPECTED.

If any of baby gays want to talk or ask about anything I’m here to talk

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Was really looking forward to someone posting about LGBTQ+ mental health 🏳️‍🌈
Would love a chat

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Yesss. Hola buddy😁. What’s up

Anonymous

Not much really… just came back from work and chilling on my couch… will be going out in a bit…
Wassup with you?

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I’m so sorrrryyyy😭😭😭😭. I don’t get notifications about replies so I didn’t reply to you. Sorryyyyyyyyyy. I’m just here trying to talk and sort out some other people’s problem. 😁. Have a great day . Sorrryyy for the late response sorry sorry

Anonymous

Hey. Ik that no one can answer this but me- but sometimes I feel like I’m actually straight and ‘faking’ it. Idk if that’s true, or just a panicked response, but it’s really interfering w my daily functioning. It’s complicated by the fact that I’m bi, so I’m not completely averse to straightness either.

Anonymous

Hi!
I can totally relate to this thing to accept that m i bi or not…
Its quite difficult to understand this feeling for me.
I am a girl
I never been with a girl before…
Its very difficult to ask a girl out without knowing if they are straight or not
And we cant just ask them about their orientation…
Arghh its complicated.

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Umm. You know sometimes our own critic selves mess up with our head to make us believe that we are “faking it” and it can be at any point and about anything. And it happens a lot with bi people. But why are you thinking a lot about this. Even if you have never been with a guy you are still bi and even if you have never been with a girl you still bi. Nobody is going to ask you about whether you like vanilla or chocolate or both. Sometimes you just want chocolate or sometimes just vanilla. Just enjoy whatever you have right now. You are not answerable to anyone about your sexuality. Wanna be with girl. Cool. Wanna be with boy. Also cool. Don’t think too much about faking it buddy. Do what your heart desires and when u do it trust me you are the most truthful to yourself. Hope it helps

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I can totally understand that. It’s actually really hard to be a girl and not knowing if another girl is interested in you or just being a really good friend. Been there done that😅. The best way is to say “fuck it” and ask her out. What would happen at the worst you won’t die . She won’t die. You will know and get peace. I hope you find a partner soon. Also you would know you are bi or not when you would just listen to your heart. So just be free. And Don’t get confused. As i said you are not answerable to anyone about whom you choose. Lots of love to you

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This is the most relatable thing I’ve read all day. And eventhough I have a girlfriend whom I love I often keep thinking am I doing it for attention or like you said faking it. Also so many people have come out after quarantine it almost feels like a trend but I keep reminding myself that what I feel for my girlfriend is real and even before her I can think of incidences where I was pretty gay I just didn’t know it back then. It’s pretty normal to feel the way you do because of the internalised homophobia that we grew up with but we need to keep reminding ourselves that our feelings are real and valid.
YOU MATTER, YOUR FEELINGS MATTER
xxx

Anonymous

Wow thanks for that!
I really the idea to explain my feelings with the chocolatw and vanilla flavors lol jk.
It really helped me alot.
Thankyou have a nice day

Anonymous

@anon yeah it’s just like…that thought is constantly there, and ik I don’t have to date a girl to ‘prove’ it, but it’s just annoying, because that’s what society makes you feel w comphet and all, and I can’t date a girl either cause that’s the environment I’m currently living in (I’m moving away soon though, so I do look forward to that, lol- but I guess what you’re talking about is another issue I’ll have to deal with ughhh). It’s just annoying like- I like girls lemme like girls. Aggh

Anonymous

@daisyblah Hey. Yeah, ik I shouldn’t feel pressured, but it’s just hard and takes time to rewire your brain to not pay attention to what society says. I’m working on it. :)
Thanks for your thoughts and advice !

Anonymous

@gayandproud hey, thank u for sharing your experience…it’s just hard to know what you feel, and still have to justify yourself…to yourself, no less, lmao. The whole ‘coming out trend’ thing- I know some people must be using it for attention but I think mostly it’s just people having more time at home to think that stuff through. But as much as I know that’s not the case, my mind insists on fearing I fall in the first category. :/ anyways Glad someone can relate to this, makes me feel less weird. :D also, congrats on getting a girllll!!! Wish you two the best.

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the fact that you fear that you may fall into the first category is the biggest giveaway that you are probably not straight besides but don’t stress on it too much it will come to you eventually

Anonymous

@gayandproud that’s true lol, I hadn’t thought abt it that way, but ig the fact that I’m terrified of queer baiting should be an indicator I’m not, lol. Anyways- as you said, it’ll get clearer w time. Thanks a lot!

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anytime love :)

Anonymous

Heyyy…I can’t tell you if I am lesbian or not…but sometimes I just want someone beside me who can understand me, love me ,take care of me which my exboyfriends never did…so I don’t have anymore faith in dating guys…so i just want to experience how does it feel to date a girl…may be m sounding stupid…but trust me I am just curious…is it normal ???

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It is normal. Maybe you are just bi curious. So if you want give it a try with girl and you would know what you really want just be careful with your feelings okayy

Anonymous

I don’t know how to ask a girl out…how come will I know that if she is interested in girls or not

Anonymous

Thats what i wanna do yaar!
Exactly!

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Um. You could just ask her 😅. There is no other way.

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In india it becomes more hard because even after all these progressions. People can still make fun of you about asking. But you don’t have other choice. You will know if that girl likes you or not. Because we eventually do. It’s a different thing that some girls just deny that because of the “shame”. I have been through this and this is why i had two very toxic relationship or I don’t know what to call that. The best way is to just ask.

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Society is all about mouths. Big empty mouths ready to spit nonsense to everyone. It’s a very short life to think about them because you know life is very short and the society doesn’t feed. You. So don’t worry. Take baby steps. We all are here with you

Anonymous

Yeah you’re right!

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I know it’s not easy to say I’m hiding my relationship from them for almost 2 years. Also i have been into depression trying to find who i really am . Everything alone. But you know if you are not happy i don’t think they will ever be happy too. They will know about the certainity of your decision if you make them believe it. They know us. It would be hard. It would be very hard. And you know i also thought of just pretending to live a life as they want but what’s the use. I will always blame them and neither they or me will be happy ever. They will understand one day. Be independent and thus they will know for sure that you will be safe and your decisions are right. We can’t always be a good kid to them. Just try to be more firm about your decisions yourself so that you can convince your parents too. They love you enough to understand you one day