Hello,
I have joined this site today because I was not feeling good and wanted to have your opinion on how should I deal with my issue. I am a people pleaser, its very difficult to stand someone anger or dislike, it makes me feel uneasy. In my friend circle I have a friend who is very funny, she is good too but she takes me, uses all my statement into jokes. Few times I have told her to stop but she doesn’t get the idea that she is exceeding. I want to learn how to take it lightly but I am not able to, I end up speechless to her jokes, I act as if I am trying to ignore it but if it happens quite a time within a day its not funny, i feel bad and stop replying and they end up saying I am too serious, leave and then i develop this FOMO(Fear of missing out).
How can I outgrow this?
See if frds don’t respect or understand you or your words then you are not with the right ppl.
Each individual is different from other and the mind set as well, they might enjoy such jokes but you don’t like it or don’t want to take it. You have already made your point to them but then calling you serious and leaving you is something which frds who really understand you don’t do !!
I understand the FOMO point but then being with ppl who doesn’t respect your point or make you feel comfortable. Does that really matter ?
Missing out on ppl who don’t value is not something which you should overthink abt. You know how you are and what makes you feel comfortable so choose n trust ppl who actually respect the points where you express them your discomfort
